Dear Speed Seduction® Student,
Here is an important question I got the other day via email. (By the way, feel free to write me with your questions and testimonials!)
"Hi Guys
It's midnight on a rainy Monday in old London Town. I've just got back in from an evening out with a very attractive young lady and I'm a bit frustrated.
I met Cath last year on holiday. When we first met we quite fancied each other, but by the end of the holiday, for various reasons, we weren't seeing eye to eye. Relationship at this point was purely platonic.
We met up again and I ran several patterns from the Home Study Course(http://www.speedseduction.net/products/rj87.asp
At several points when she was in trance I leaned in and she responded very favorably by smiling and leaning in to me.
At the end of the evening I walked her back to her car, gave her a hug and a kiss on the cheek and we agreed to meet again.
All well and good? If that's the case why do I feel like I managed to capture her imagination but didn't lead it very well?
It seems to be a bit of a theme with me at the moment. I go out, meet quite a few women, get into great conversations with them. Steer these towards SS themes but don't seem to be able lead them to places which let them feel interested or comfortable enough to want to go any further.
I sort of feel like I'm sooooo close. But not quite there? I'm managing to put myself in a scoring position, but can't quite create the opportunity to put the ball in the back of the net.
Suggestions, support and encouragement most welcome.
TR London, England"
Ok, TR. Good going, so far. You are using patterns and getting some strong, favorable responses.
Here is where you screwed it up:
YOU WAITED UNTIL THE END OF THE EVENING TO GO FOR THE KISS!
What is this stuff about waiting to walk her back to her car?
You have to learn to strike while the iron is hot.
If you see her leaning into you, that's a huge NON-VERBAL SIGNAL that is screaming out: KISS ME, STUPID!
The more important issue is, you seem to be putting Speed Seduction® through a dating framework.
What I mean by that is, even though you are using the patterns and getting great responses, you are still thinking in terms of traditional dating when it comes to making your move.
You are still thinking you have to wait til the end of the evening, etc etc.
Get that traditional "dating" programming out of your head.
When you capture and lead a woman's imagination and emotions, they will be ready for action, far more quickly than you would ever get through traditional dating.
Peace and piece,
RJ
P.S. Want to enjoy fantastic success with amazing women, without resorting to traditional dating, stupid "dating tips", trite "dating advice", canned "pick up lines" and the rest of that nonsense?
Get women hot for you, fast and easy, and leave traditional dating behind for good. Just go here:
http://www.speedseduction.net/products/rj87.asp
Meet women, anytime, anywhere and never worry about what to say. Check out the amazing Gold Walk Up DVD and learn the 4 approach positions that will have you easily approaching women any time and never have to think about what comes out of your mouth:
http://www.speedseduction.net/products/rj185.asp
This newsletter, and all of its contents are
copyright 2004, Ross Jeffries. However this
newsletter may be reprinted and re-used in
any format, without prior consent, provided
all content, including all links, are kept
intact, proper credit for authorship is given,
and the newsletter is given for free,
without charge.
Showing posts with label wife-seduction. Show all posts
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Monday, March 28, 2011
Monday, February 28, 2011
Astonishing Use of Speed Seduction®!!
Dear Speed Seduction® Student,
One of the very great joys for me in teaching this technology Is how my very best and brightest students will use it, NOT just for getting hot women, but in other areas of life.
When tools and ways of thinking work beyond a specific area, but can be adopted for many of life's challenges, you KNOW you are on to something.
So I got this email I HAD to share about how I guy took what he learned and used to control his fear in a VERY stressful situation.
Remember, as you read this, what I have said time and again:
YOUR STATE OF MIND IS CRUCIAL TO YOUR SUCCESS WITH WOMEN! LEARN TO CONTROL YOURSELF AND YOU WILL BE HALF-WAY HOME TO ATTRACTING THE HOTTEST WOMEN!
From: Chris Williams To:
sandworm77@comcast.net Subject: Letter from a very satisfied customer
Good morning Mr. Jeffries,
I just now got back from an amazing experience, and I wanted to thank you for your part in it.
I got home from the hospital a few hours ago after having our first baby. While it is true that I meet my wife using the tools I developed with the Basic SS Home Study course in 1999, that is not the reason I am writing.
I bought the Home Study Course last spring, and one of the many great things I learned from that was handling fear. My word when I have the feelings that I used to call fear is "texhad". This re-frames the sensations I have in body that I used to call feeling fear as being anticipation of a "thrilling, exciting adventure".
Texhad was the word that kept going through my mind as I was driving my wife to the hospital. When we arrived there, they had some challenging news for us. The baby already had her first bowel movement and had contaminated the amniotic fluid. In technical terms, the danger was that she would aspirate the merconium. This can be very serious. One of my good friend's son did this, and he was in the neo-natal intensive care for a week before they were sure he would live.
While my wife was crying when we heard this news, I discovered that I did not automatically react. Instead of immediately allowing my feelings to be effected by this news, I was able to get into a monitoring state and cause my response. I was able to choose that this was going to the adventure part of the day's "thrilling, exciting adventure", and I can honestly
say that I was never scared at any time.
Twenty-four hours later when our OB announced that my wife was exhausted after three hours of pushing and we had to go to the OR for a C-section, I turned down another chance to be scared. I was able to ride out the adventure, strongly support my wife without a trace of doubt of fear in my reactions, and at the end we were rewarded with a beautiful and perfectly healthy
baby girl.
The main thing I have learned from this is that the end result was almost certainly going to be the same either way. The only difference was going to be what sort of ride I took getting from the beginning to the end. I chose to have fun, and so I did.
I honestly thank you for that.
Your very grateful client,
Chris Williams
Dear Chris,
Now, what can you say when you get fan-mail like THAT? Except that being a leader; someone who is in control of HIMSELF, instead of obsessively trying to control women, is what REALLY attracts great women into your life AND makes you worthwhile being in theirs! That's a win-win for EVERYONE!
That's it for this issue.
Peace and piece,
Ross Jeffries
P.S. You can learn to have the same self-control, peace of mind, and natural leadership that makes you a great mate AND attract hot women! Just go to: http://www.speedseduction.net/products/rj87.asp
This newsletter, and all of its contents are
copyright 2004, Ross Jeffries. However this
newsletter may be reprinted and re-used in
any format, without prior consent, provided
all content, including all links, are kept
intact, proper credit for authorship is given,
and the newsletter is given for free,
without charge.
One of the very great joys for me in teaching this technology Is how my very best and brightest students will use it, NOT just for getting hot women, but in other areas of life.
When tools and ways of thinking work beyond a specific area, but can be adopted for many of life's challenges, you KNOW you are on to something.
So I got this email I HAD to share about how I guy took what he learned and used to control his fear in a VERY stressful situation.
Remember, as you read this, what I have said time and again:
YOUR STATE OF MIND IS CRUCIAL TO YOUR SUCCESS WITH WOMEN! LEARN TO CONTROL YOURSELF AND YOU WILL BE HALF-WAY HOME TO ATTRACTING THE HOTTEST WOMEN!
From: Chris Williams To:
sandworm77@comcast.net Subject: Letter from a very satisfied customer
Good morning Mr. Jeffries,
I just now got back from an amazing experience, and I wanted to thank you for your part in it.
I got home from the hospital a few hours ago after having our first baby. While it is true that I meet my wife using the tools I developed with the Basic SS Home Study course in 1999, that is not the reason I am writing.
I bought the Home Study Course last spring, and one of the many great things I learned from that was handling fear. My word when I have the feelings that I used to call fear is "texhad". This re-frames the sensations I have in body that I used to call feeling fear as being anticipation of a "thrilling, exciting adventure".
Texhad was the word that kept going through my mind as I was driving my wife to the hospital. When we arrived there, they had some challenging news for us. The baby already had her first bowel movement and had contaminated the amniotic fluid. In technical terms, the danger was that she would aspirate the merconium. This can be very serious. One of my good friend's son did this, and he was in the neo-natal intensive care for a week before they were sure he would live.
While my wife was crying when we heard this news, I discovered that I did not automatically react. Instead of immediately allowing my feelings to be effected by this news, I was able to get into a monitoring state and cause my response. I was able to choose that this was going to the adventure part of the day's "thrilling, exciting adventure", and I can honestly
say that I was never scared at any time.
Twenty-four hours later when our OB announced that my wife was exhausted after three hours of pushing and we had to go to the OR for a C-section, I turned down another chance to be scared. I was able to ride out the adventure, strongly support my wife without a trace of doubt of fear in my reactions, and at the end we were rewarded with a beautiful and perfectly healthy
baby girl.
The main thing I have learned from this is that the end result was almost certainly going to be the same either way. The only difference was going to be what sort of ride I took getting from the beginning to the end. I chose to have fun, and so I did.
I honestly thank you for that.
Your very grateful client,
Chris Williams
Dear Chris,
Now, what can you say when you get fan-mail like THAT? Except that being a leader; someone who is in control of HIMSELF, instead of obsessively trying to control women, is what REALLY attracts great women into your life AND makes you worthwhile being in theirs! That's a win-win for EVERYONE!
That's it for this issue.
Peace and piece,
Ross Jeffries
P.S. You can learn to have the same self-control, peace of mind, and natural leadership that makes you a great mate AND attract hot women! Just go to: http://www.speedseduction.net/products/rj87.asp
This newsletter, and all of its contents are
copyright 2004, Ross Jeffries. However this
newsletter may be reprinted and re-used in
any format, without prior consent, provided
all content, including all links, are kept
intact, proper credit for authorship is given,
and the newsletter is given for free,
without charge.
Tuesday, February 1, 2011
Dear Speed Seduction® Student,
Over the years, I've had a chance to look at what really
makes permanent, large, personal change possible. I've
watched thousands of guys use my methods to go very rapidly
from no confidence with women at all, to ease, power, grace
and fun with all the women they could possibly desire.
And one of the big things they had in common, in addition
to buying and using my products, is…
......Consistency!
They didn't just listen to my products once, or give it a
few tries.
No.
They immersed themselves in the material.
In fact, I've gotten many reports of guys going so far as
to have my, videos, cd's and tapes playing all the time in
every room of their house, apartment or hotel, no matter the
time of day, on multiple tape players, VHS's etc.
Other students (including some of my current top guys)
have said that they took long drives out of town, often
hundreds of miles each way, with the tapes or CD's playing the
entire trip.
Now, personally, I don't think I could stand listening to
my own voice that much!
But immersing yourself in the material, in fact, immersing
yourself when it comes to any truly new way of thinking and
feeling and acting, is probably…
.................A Damn Fine Idea!
Remember, one of my key rules for success and power with
women, which I've repeated over and over:
Use Your Language To Capture And Lead Her Imagination And
Emotions!
****************************************************
Advertisement
If you want incredible success with women, why not purchase
your Speed Seduction® Home Study Course today? Just go to:
http://www.speedseduction.net/products/rj87.asp
**********************************************************
Well, the same is true with changing yourself. You've got
to learn to capture and lead your own imagination and emotions
on a consistent basis to take you where you really want to
go! And then follow up with your external behavior, in the
real world, with women!
Anyway, yesterday I got an email from someone who brought
up this very issue. So let's here from this devoted
client/reader:
"Hey Ross, I know you probably get a million emails a day,
but I felt the need to take the time to thank you for the work
you've put in to Speed Seduction and the Unstoppable
Confidence series. I've only received SS 2 days ago, but just
by listening to your exercises on visualization and overcoming
fear and shyness, I can already tell it's having an effect on
the way I perceive myself.
If you happen to get through this and feel like replying,
I'm just wondering if it's normal to feel sort of...hollow, or
feel almost a blank emptiness after doing these exercises?
Seriously, after I listen and study for a while I feel like
I've completely erased a part of myself and it takes a little
getting used to but goes away after a while. Any idea what
I'm talking about, or am I just convincing myself that I
should feel different?
Again, thanks a million and I promise to study hard and
practice as often as I possibly can. :)
-Tim T. New Castle, PA "
Tim,
Thanks for the kind words. I personally love the
Unstoppable Confidence tapes. They are one of our all time
best sellers, and still, over a decade after I created them in
1994, they stand up as one of my finest products.
While it's great that only after 2 days you are already
noticing some good effects, bear in mind that it takes a while
for big changes to take hold and feel real.
That's not to say you aren't changing already. You are.
It just takes a while for new feelings, new thoughts and new
behaviors to "feel like the real you". Most studies show
that, in fact, the time period for new ways of thinking,
feeling and acting to "set" and feel "natural" is 21 days.
My suggestion is to keep on listening to the UC Tapes and
keep doing the exercises. It takes some consistent(but not
heroic or hard) effort to get change going. And for goodness
sakes, make sure you are a member of the Speed Seduction
on-line discussion group where you can get 24 hour support,
encouragement and ANSWERS to your questions! Yours for free
when you buy your Delux or Basic Home Study Course. Just click
here at:
http://www.speedseduction.net/products/rj87.asp
That's it for this issue. Keep practicing, keep capturing
imagination and emotion (your own and womens') and keep on
keeping on!
Peace and piece,
RJ
P.S. Your success with women is waiting for you. Just go to:
http://www.speedseduction.net/resources.asp
This newsletter, and all of its contents are
copyright 2004, Ross Jeffries. However this
newsletter may be reprinted and re-used in
any format, without prior consent, provided
all content, including all links, are kept
intact, proper credit for authorship is given,
and the newsletter is given for free,
without charge.
Over the years, I've had a chance to look at what really
makes permanent, large, personal change possible. I've
watched thousands of guys use my methods to go very rapidly
from no confidence with women at all, to ease, power, grace
and fun with all the women they could possibly desire.
And one of the big things they had in common, in addition
to buying and using my products, is…
......Consistency!
They didn't just listen to my products once, or give it a
few tries.
No.
They immersed themselves in the material.
In fact, I've gotten many reports of guys going so far as
to have my, videos, cd's and tapes playing all the time in
every room of their house, apartment or hotel, no matter the
time of day, on multiple tape players, VHS's etc.
Other students (including some of my current top guys)
have said that they took long drives out of town, often
hundreds of miles each way, with the tapes or CD's playing the
entire trip.
Now, personally, I don't think I could stand listening to
my own voice that much!
But immersing yourself in the material, in fact, immersing
yourself when it comes to any truly new way of thinking and
feeling and acting, is probably…
.................A Damn Fine Idea!
Remember, one of my key rules for success and power with
women, which I've repeated over and over:
Use Your Language To Capture And Lead Her Imagination And
Emotions!
****************************************************
Advertisement
If you want incredible success with women, why not purchase
your Speed Seduction® Home Study Course today? Just go to:
http://www.speedseduction.net/products/rj87.asp
**********************************************************
Well, the same is true with changing yourself. You've got
to learn to capture and lead your own imagination and emotions
on a consistent basis to take you where you really want to
go! And then follow up with your external behavior, in the
real world, with women!
Anyway, yesterday I got an email from someone who brought
up this very issue. So let's here from this devoted
client/reader:
"Hey Ross, I know you probably get a million emails a day,
but I felt the need to take the time to thank you for the work
you've put in to Speed Seduction and the Unstoppable
Confidence series. I've only received SS 2 days ago, but just
by listening to your exercises on visualization and overcoming
fear and shyness, I can already tell it's having an effect on
the way I perceive myself.
If you happen to get through this and feel like replying,
I'm just wondering if it's normal to feel sort of...hollow, or
feel almost a blank emptiness after doing these exercises?
Seriously, after I listen and study for a while I feel like
I've completely erased a part of myself and it takes a little
getting used to but goes away after a while. Any idea what
I'm talking about, or am I just convincing myself that I
should feel different?
Again, thanks a million and I promise to study hard and
practice as often as I possibly can. :)
-Tim T. New Castle, PA "
Tim,
Thanks for the kind words. I personally love the
Unstoppable Confidence tapes. They are one of our all time
best sellers, and still, over a decade after I created them in
1994, they stand up as one of my finest products.
While it's great that only after 2 days you are already
noticing some good effects, bear in mind that it takes a while
for big changes to take hold and feel real.
That's not to say you aren't changing already. You are.
It just takes a while for new feelings, new thoughts and new
behaviors to "feel like the real you". Most studies show
that, in fact, the time period for new ways of thinking,
feeling and acting to "set" and feel "natural" is 21 days.
My suggestion is to keep on listening to the UC Tapes and
keep doing the exercises. It takes some consistent(but not
heroic or hard) effort to get change going. And for goodness
sakes, make sure you are a member of the Speed Seduction
on-line discussion group where you can get 24 hour support,
encouragement and ANSWERS to your questions! Yours for free
when you buy your Delux or Basic Home Study Course. Just click
here at:
http://www.speedseduction.net/products/rj87.asp
That's it for this issue. Keep practicing, keep capturing
imagination and emotion (your own and womens') and keep on
keeping on!
Peace and piece,
RJ
P.S. Your success with women is waiting for you. Just go to:
http://www.speedseduction.net/resources.asp
This newsletter, and all of its contents are
copyright 2004, Ross Jeffries. However this
newsletter may be reprinted and re-used in
any format, without prior consent, provided
all content, including all links, are kept
intact, proper credit for authorship is given,
and the newsletter is given for free,
without charge.
Friday, January 28, 2011
How To Get Unstuck And Going Strong With Speed Seduction®!
Dear Speed Seduction® Student,
Many times, beginning students have said or written to me,
"I'm just having trouble getting started with this stuff. It's
not that I'm really shy or anything...it's just that this way of
talking seems SO strange to me."
Now listen; I am very aware that a first introduction to
Speed Seduction® can seem overwhelming and also a little, well,
ooky.
After all, if a guy walked up to you and talked to you the
way I am teaching you to talk to women, you'd probably call the
cops or punch him in the mouth. Perhaps if you were an extra
compassionate person, you'd refer him to a mental health clinic
for counseling.
Look, I'm very, very aware that the ways I'm teaching you to
communicate with women seem very strange. Further I'm here to
tell you..
....THEY SHOULD SEEM STRANGE TO YOU!
*******************************************
ADVERTISEMENT
To check out the latest Speed Seduction® products
to super-charge your love life, go to:
http://www.speedseduction.net/products.asp
*******************************************
Is this a contradiction?? How could something that could
help you have success with women beyond your wildest
fantasies..something that could take that old, rusty stuck door
of not getting anywhere or having to "settle" and...
...Make It Swing Wide Open With Excitement, Passion And The
Connections With They Kind Of Women You've Always Wanted.
Well, here is the secret in a nut-shell: women think about
and process language DIFFERENTLY.
We men tend to process words and language through the left
brain. But scientific studies, using brain scans have shown that
women process the same words and phrases using the left AND
right brains; that the same language that evokes little or no
emotional response from men, evokes massive emotional response
from women.
This means that the language that seems funny, bizarre or
off to you, will be processed by women in a way that opens the
deep, emotional, suggestive structures of their minds.
Now, don't get me wrong. All humans, male or female, are
subject to great emotional response, based on symbols. Just
think of the strong emotions that rush through you when you are
traveling in a foreign land and you see the American flag.(This
could be good or bad, depending what country you are from-since
my students come from all around the world, I have to be
careful!)
Of when you hear your countries national anthem. Or when you
see the sun finally come out on a clear day after a long bout of
darkness and rain.
These symbols and events evoke emotion, strongly, in ALL
humans. It is simply that women also happen to have strong
responses to language, spoken and written, that we men simply
usually don't.
What does this really mean for you? That if you can push
past your initial responses that this stuff may seem odd or
weird and instead, understand HOW it works, go out and give it a
try, then....
....The Results You Will See Will Astonish You!
A couple of quick metaphors to help you understand this.
When you go fishing, if you were to go fishing, would you bait
the hook with YOUR favorite snack foods because worms or
crawdads would taste bad to you?
No. You would bait it with what the FISH bites on and
desires.
Finally, supposing you were driving on a country road, late
at night, and a UFO landed right in front of you. Out stepped an
alien from a very advanced species. You knew that if you could
communicate with him, he would unveil incredible technology to
you that could solve world hunger, bring unlimited wealth,
riches, and happiness to the world, end disease, and make your
own personal dreams come true and more. He could unlock the
answer to any question, but..
He didn't speak a word of any language on earth!
Instead, you had to learn to speak to him in HIS language,
something that seemed at first like gibberish, hard to
pronounce, and not making any sense to you.
Would you refuse his offer of a device that would teach you,
in a few weeks, to speak to him in his own tongue, just because
it felt weird and made no sense to you?
Or would you take his language machine, learn to speak to
him in a way that HE understood and responded to, and...
...COLLECT TREASURES AND TECHNOLOGY BEYOND YOUR WILDEST DREAMS?
Now look: women are NOT aliens. But sometimes, the way they
process language, words and emotions can make us FEEL like they
are from another planet. Speed Seduction® will hand you that
universal translator/language machine so you can take them on
journeys OUT OF THIS WORLD!
Peace and piece,
Ross Jeffries
P.S. If you want to unstuck yourself and really get kicking
ass with Speed Seduction®, check out this product from
my top student and co-trainer, Dave Riker! It is flying off
our shelves!
http://www.daveriker.com/ssmanual/index.html
This newsletter, and all of its contents are
copyright 2004, Ross Jeffries. However this
newsletter may be reprinted and re-used in
any format, without prior consent, provided
all content, including all links, are kept
intact, proper credit for authorship is given,
and the newsletter is given for free,
without charge.
Many times, beginning students have said or written to me,
"I'm just having trouble getting started with this stuff. It's
not that I'm really shy or anything...it's just that this way of
talking seems SO strange to me."
Now listen; I am very aware that a first introduction to
Speed Seduction® can seem overwhelming and also a little, well,
ooky.
After all, if a guy walked up to you and talked to you the
way I am teaching you to talk to women, you'd probably call the
cops or punch him in the mouth. Perhaps if you were an extra
compassionate person, you'd refer him to a mental health clinic
for counseling.
Look, I'm very, very aware that the ways I'm teaching you to
communicate with women seem very strange. Further I'm here to
tell you..
....THEY SHOULD SEEM STRANGE TO YOU!
*******************************************
ADVERTISEMENT
To check out the latest Speed Seduction® products
to super-charge your love life, go to:
http://www.speedseduction.net/products.asp
*******************************************
Is this a contradiction?? How could something that could
help you have success with women beyond your wildest
fantasies..something that could take that old, rusty stuck door
of not getting anywhere or having to "settle" and...
...Make It Swing Wide Open With Excitement, Passion And The
Connections With They Kind Of Women You've Always Wanted.
Well, here is the secret in a nut-shell: women think about
and process language DIFFERENTLY.
We men tend to process words and language through the left
brain. But scientific studies, using brain scans have shown that
women process the same words and phrases using the left AND
right brains; that the same language that evokes little or no
emotional response from men, evokes massive emotional response
from women.
This means that the language that seems funny, bizarre or
off to you, will be processed by women in a way that opens the
deep, emotional, suggestive structures of their minds.
Now, don't get me wrong. All humans, male or female, are
subject to great emotional response, based on symbols. Just
think of the strong emotions that rush through you when you are
traveling in a foreign land and you see the American flag.(This
could be good or bad, depending what country you are from-since
my students come from all around the world, I have to be
careful!)
Of when you hear your countries national anthem. Or when you
see the sun finally come out on a clear day after a long bout of
darkness and rain.
These symbols and events evoke emotion, strongly, in ALL
humans. It is simply that women also happen to have strong
responses to language, spoken and written, that we men simply
usually don't.
What does this really mean for you? That if you can push
past your initial responses that this stuff may seem odd or
weird and instead, understand HOW it works, go out and give it a
try, then....
....The Results You Will See Will Astonish You!
A couple of quick metaphors to help you understand this.
When you go fishing, if you were to go fishing, would you bait
the hook with YOUR favorite snack foods because worms or
crawdads would taste bad to you?
No. You would bait it with what the FISH bites on and
desires.
Finally, supposing you were driving on a country road, late
at night, and a UFO landed right in front of you. Out stepped an
alien from a very advanced species. You knew that if you could
communicate with him, he would unveil incredible technology to
you that could solve world hunger, bring unlimited wealth,
riches, and happiness to the world, end disease, and make your
own personal dreams come true and more. He could unlock the
answer to any question, but..
He didn't speak a word of any language on earth!
Instead, you had to learn to speak to him in HIS language,
something that seemed at first like gibberish, hard to
pronounce, and not making any sense to you.
Would you refuse his offer of a device that would teach you,
in a few weeks, to speak to him in his own tongue, just because
it felt weird and made no sense to you?
Or would you take his language machine, learn to speak to
him in a way that HE understood and responded to, and...
...COLLECT TREASURES AND TECHNOLOGY BEYOND YOUR WILDEST DREAMS?
Now look: women are NOT aliens. But sometimes, the way they
process language, words and emotions can make us FEEL like they
are from another planet. Speed Seduction® will hand you that
universal translator/language machine so you can take them on
journeys OUT OF THIS WORLD!
Peace and piece,
Ross Jeffries
P.S. If you want to unstuck yourself and really get kicking
ass with Speed Seduction®, check out this product from
my top student and co-trainer, Dave Riker! It is flying off
our shelves!
http://www.daveriker.com/ssmanual/index.html
This newsletter, and all of its contents are
copyright 2004, Ross Jeffries. However this
newsletter may be reprinted and re-used in
any format, without prior consent, provided
all content, including all links, are kept
intact, proper credit for authorship is given,
and the newsletter is given for free,
without charge.
Friday, January 14, 2011
Three Students Share Shocking Seduction Success!
Dear Speed Seduction® Student,
One of the great joys of doing this job is getting the
emails and testimonials from guys just like you who are using
my material to really turn their love lives around and
transform their success with women.
Now, the best ones are from students who are really just
trying things out for the first time, and interestingly
enough, even though they've read the newsletters, understood
the courses and material the first few times they try this
stuff ……
.........They Don't Even Believe It's Going To Work!
No, that wasn't a misprint or a typo. I said they don't
(as in do NOT) believe this stuff is going to work!
In fact, I have seen from my experience, time and time
again, when guys first try this stuff, they usually DON'T
believe in it precisely because it IS so different from the
way 99% of most guys have been taught to think, feel and act
around women.
A Key Understanding If You REALLY Want To Change!
You see, there is a huge paradox in creating real, massive
change, in any area of your life. Once you get this key
understanding, you will be on your way to massive success at
changing virtually anything (and not just with women), no
matter what system or method you might try. So pay attention,
and get this, because here it is it is:
The Methods For Success That Are Closest To What You Are
Already Doing Seem The Easiest To Try, But Offer the Least
Potential For Huge Change , Because They Are So Close To What
You Are Already Thinking, Acting, Believing And Doing!
What this comes down to, is the whole idea of "the comfort
zone". When you stay in your "comfort zone" and just do what
you are used to, it is pretty easy, yet doing what you are
used to (and thinking and believing as you have been used to)
is what has been keeping you stuck.
Thinking, believing and acting very differently can bring
you rapid and massive results, but it CAN at first feel
uncomfortable unless you have some special "technology" to get
you around that "difference".
Anyway, being able to try out brand new ways of doing
things, and to do so with a sense of enjoyment, exploration
and fun, instead of anxiety and fear, is one of the unique
technological breakthroughs that Speed Seduction® brings to
you, in addition to the actual material for meeting and
rapidly turning on women!
SS is the only system that has been offering these tested,
proven tools for self-transformation to men for the past
decade, and I am very proud of that!
So, that out of the way, let me share 2 recent emails from
you, from some happy and successful NEW students:
Ye Gods!
I have to share this with somebody, and I'm afraid you
guys are going to have to take the brunt of it...
I went out tonight on a field trip. I'd spent most [nay,
all...] of my free time over the last few weeks burying
myself in the Basic SS CDs & literature. I'm not ashamed to
admit that I've pranced around my apartment daily, like an
idiot, rehearsing patterns and "Doing the affirmations."
I went out tonight, met some friends in a noisy pub [not
the ideal environment, for sure...], but with the
single-minded determination to try this stuff out for real.
Cutting to the chase: I saw a slim, blonde HB surrounded
by drooling buffoons. Throwing caution to the wind [have you
ever tried doing that?], I dived on in. I caught her eye,
smiled, opened with a bit of low-key banter and she said:
"I am from Germany. My English, it's not very good..."
She was a foreign exchange student who'd only been in the
country for a few weeks.
Needless to say, my initial though was: "Jesus Christ on a
Pogo-Stick! Destiny has truly tied my shoelaces together!" But
within seconds I thought: "Fuggit - let's try this shit out,
anyhow..."
So I ran a variation of the Instantaneous Connection
pattern on her. I riffed in some embedded commands. And I
did it all very, very, very slowly. In that terrible mixed-up
syntax that English-speaking people invariably use when
talking to people from other countries. And you know what?
It worked an absolute treat!
We somehow ended up talking about German expletives.
After a few rubbishy attempts at getting my tongue around
[ahem!] the German equivalent of 'Son of a bitch' we moved
onto more fruity translations.
Let's just say, without prompting, she told me what the
German word for "c*nt" is - she made it clear that this wasn't
the 'biological' term, but the taboo variant. And she was
really determined that I got the pronunciation right...
Last orrders arrived, and -without so much as a hint of
supplication -I [slowly, with bad syntax] explained to her
that it was a tragic, shame that our conversation had to end,
and that it was an awful, awful shame that we can't go on
learning new things about each other's language. She reached
into her handbag, pulled out her mobile [cellphone] and
demanded that we exchange numbers...
I'm still in a state of shock. I can't get my hat on.
Must run! I urgently need to check out some
German-English translation sites...
Tomas G, City and state withheld, by request
Dear SS List Brothers,
Just wanted to say hi to everybody on the list & look
forward to a long and learning relationship,
I am new to this and have been applying the Twin Brothers
pattern Ross told us to try after the UK SS seminar this
September 2004,
The other day I used this pattern on a sexy Italian
manageress of a restaurant I had talked to her on a couple of
occasions before this evening, anyway while I was 1/2 way
through I couldn't believe her response, she chose the kisser
rather than someone who makes her laugh & then held my hand
and started to talk about how she felt during sex. I almost
fell of my chair, my colleague couldn't believe it either,
(he's coming to the next seminar) I left it there because I
was punch drunk with the response & delighted that it worked.
I have seen her again and have her number I will let you
know how I get on.
THANKS ROSS
Tim Cooke
London, England
Thanks Tomas and Tim!
Now, do you notice what each of these guys have in common?
Very simple: they had the balls to try something new and
different, without even being sure of the result.
They got the results, by stepping out of their comfort
zone!
So how about you, dear reader? How about you?
Til next time,
Peace and Piece,
Ross
P.S. Get results like these guys and better by getting
your Speed Seduction® Home Study course at:
http://www.speedseduction.net/products/rj87.asp
This newsletter, and all of its contents are
copyright 2004, Ross Jeffries. However this
newsletter may be reprinted and re-used in
any format, without prior consent, provided
all content, including all links, are kept
intact, proper credit for authorship is given,
and the newsletter is given for free,
without charge.
One of the great joys of doing this job is getting the
emails and testimonials from guys just like you who are using
my material to really turn their love lives around and
transform their success with women.
Now, the best ones are from students who are really just
trying things out for the first time, and interestingly
enough, even though they've read the newsletters, understood
the courses and material the first few times they try this
stuff ……
.........They Don't Even Believe It's Going To Work!
No, that wasn't a misprint or a typo. I said they don't
(as in do NOT) believe this stuff is going to work!
In fact, I have seen from my experience, time and time
again, when guys first try this stuff, they usually DON'T
believe in it precisely because it IS so different from the
way 99% of most guys have been taught to think, feel and act
around women.
A Key Understanding If You REALLY Want To Change!
You see, there is a huge paradox in creating real, massive
change, in any area of your life. Once you get this key
understanding, you will be on your way to massive success at
changing virtually anything (and not just with women), no
matter what system or method you might try. So pay attention,
and get this, because here it is it is:
The Methods For Success That Are Closest To What You Are
Already Doing Seem The Easiest To Try, But Offer the Least
Potential For Huge Change , Because They Are So Close To What
You Are Already Thinking, Acting, Believing And Doing!
What this comes down to, is the whole idea of "the comfort
zone". When you stay in your "comfort zone" and just do what
you are used to, it is pretty easy, yet doing what you are
used to (and thinking and believing as you have been used to)
is what has been keeping you stuck.
Thinking, believing and acting very differently can bring
you rapid and massive results, but it CAN at first feel
uncomfortable unless you have some special "technology" to get
you around that "difference".
Anyway, being able to try out brand new ways of doing
things, and to do so with a sense of enjoyment, exploration
and fun, instead of anxiety and fear, is one of the unique
technological breakthroughs that Speed Seduction® brings to
you, in addition to the actual material for meeting and
rapidly turning on women!
SS is the only system that has been offering these tested,
proven tools for self-transformation to men for the past
decade, and I am very proud of that!
So, that out of the way, let me share 2 recent emails from
you, from some happy and successful NEW students:
Ye Gods!
I have to share this with somebody, and I'm afraid you
guys are going to have to take the brunt of it...
I went out tonight on a field trip. I'd spent most [nay,
all...] of my free time over the last few weeks burying
myself in the Basic SS CDs & literature. I'm not ashamed to
admit that I've pranced around my apartment daily, like an
idiot, rehearsing patterns and "Doing the affirmations."
I went out tonight, met some friends in a noisy pub [not
the ideal environment, for sure...], but with the
single-minded determination to try this stuff out for real.
Cutting to the chase: I saw a slim, blonde HB surrounded
by drooling buffoons. Throwing caution to the wind [have you
ever tried doing that?], I dived on in. I caught her eye,
smiled, opened with a bit of low-key banter and she said:
"I am from Germany. My English, it's not very good..."
She was a foreign exchange student who'd only been in the
country for a few weeks.
Needless to say, my initial though was: "Jesus Christ on a
Pogo-Stick! Destiny has truly tied my shoelaces together!" But
within seconds I thought: "Fuggit - let's try this shit out,
anyhow..."
So I ran a variation of the Instantaneous Connection
pattern on her. I riffed in some embedded commands. And I
did it all very, very, very slowly. In that terrible mixed-up
syntax that English-speaking people invariably use when
talking to people from other countries. And you know what?
It worked an absolute treat!
We somehow ended up talking about German expletives.
After a few rubbishy attempts at getting my tongue around
[ahem!] the German equivalent of 'Son of a bitch' we moved
onto more fruity translations.
Let's just say, without prompting, she told me what the
German word for "c*nt" is - she made it clear that this wasn't
the 'biological' term, but the taboo variant. And she was
really determined that I got the pronunciation right...
Last orrders arrived, and -without so much as a hint of
supplication -I [slowly, with bad syntax] explained to her
that it was a tragic, shame that our conversation had to end,
and that it was an awful, awful shame that we can't go on
learning new things about each other's language. She reached
into her handbag, pulled out her mobile [cellphone] and
demanded that we exchange numbers...
I'm still in a state of shock. I can't get my hat on.
Must run! I urgently need to check out some
German-English translation sites...
Tomas G, City and state withheld, by request
Dear SS List Brothers,
Just wanted to say hi to everybody on the list & look
forward to a long and learning relationship,
I am new to this and have been applying the Twin Brothers
pattern Ross told us to try after the UK SS seminar this
September 2004,
The other day I used this pattern on a sexy Italian
manageress of a restaurant I had talked to her on a couple of
occasions before this evening, anyway while I was 1/2 way
through I couldn't believe her response, she chose the kisser
rather than someone who makes her laugh & then held my hand
and started to talk about how she felt during sex. I almost
fell of my chair, my colleague couldn't believe it either,
(he's coming to the next seminar) I left it there because I
was punch drunk with the response & delighted that it worked.
I have seen her again and have her number I will let you
know how I get on.
THANKS ROSS
Tim Cooke
London, England
Thanks Tomas and Tim!
Now, do you notice what each of these guys have in common?
Very simple: they had the balls to try something new and
different, without even being sure of the result.
They got the results, by stepping out of their comfort
zone!
So how about you, dear reader? How about you?
Til next time,
Peace and Piece,
Ross
P.S. Get results like these guys and better by getting
your Speed Seduction® Home Study course at:
http://www.speedseduction.net/products/rj87.asp
This newsletter, and all of its contents are
copyright 2004, Ross Jeffries. However this
newsletter may be reprinted and re-used in
any format, without prior consent, provided
all content, including all links, are kept
intact, proper credit for authorship is given,
and the newsletter is given for free,
without charge.
Friday, January 7, 2011
3 Killer Tips To Triple Your Seduction Success
Dear Speed Seduction® Student,
Believe it or not, your old pal Ross actually has his
critics. People who don't like me..People who think I
shouldn't be teaching you what I'm teaching. One of the
things I hear most often from these morons is something
along the likes of, "C'mon now, Ross. What you're talking
about couldn't possibly work. In fact, it sounds like
magic."
Now, I don't really care what these pinheads think. But
I am concerned that YOU, dear reader, understand what Speed
Seduction® is all about. And it certainly ISN'T magic.
Now, don't get me wrong. If you're like some of my
clients when they are first starting out, without having
been intimate with a woman for years and then suddenly you
are enjoying 2, 3 even 4 hot women at a time, , it might
seem like magic.
In fact, Speed Seduction(R) is mechanics.
That means it requires a certain sequence, set of
circumstances and applications in order for it to work.
Within that framework, it's massively powerful, but that
framework still has to be there.
Just like a super-charged, perfectly tuned, 450
horsepower, V-8 engine won't run without the oxygen to burn
the fuel, Speed Seduction only works when there are certain
necessary conditions.
Thankfully those conditions have nothing whatsoever to
do with your looks, age, money, social status or other
"externals" outside of your control. In this issue, I'm
going to review what those conditions are, and how you can
use all this to massively increase the quantity and quality
of your babe hunting.
Condition One:You've Got To Be In The Right Frame Of
Mind
As I've said time and again, the patterns I teach are
NOT just another high tech way to beg you into some girl's
pants. If you view them like this, then, even if you
deliver them flawlessly from a technical standpoint, you
are still going to get nowhere because your weak-ass,
piss-ant, puss-wimp attitude will.......
... ...Totally Annihilate The Emotional States You Are
Attempting To Create In Your Subject! (
How does this self-defeating process take place?
Simple.
As I have said time and again, in any area of life, if
you are coming from a place of hunger, or need, or
desperately trying to prove to yourself that you can win
again, then you almost certainly guaranteed to fail. You'll
simply push away the very thing you want and get locked
into a self-perpetuating "defeat-cycle" that gets you
nowhere.
If you want to be hilariously successful with Speed
Seduction, then you must realize that the patterns aren't
about begging. They certainly aren't about tricking or
misleading.
No, sir, the patterns are about being able to create
such incredible states of pleasure and fun and highs for
her that no one else can, such that she really WANTS to
give you her sexual goodies. They're about creating states
for her that no one else can.
Viewed like this, that incredible babe you want to bed
isn't someone you need to fear. She's someone who's about
to receive an incredible gift from you, a gift she might
continue to receive IF she's smart enough and hot enough
and sexy enough to give you what it takes to keep YOU
coming back for more.
Just imagine the difference when you can look at a
honey-pie and honestly think to yourself, "How good can
this woman stand to feel? Let's go have fun and find out!".
Speaking of fun, another big part of being in the right
frame of mind to make SS work is refusing to take it
seriously.
By that, I mean you take the attitude that you are
experimenting, having fun, and if what you do doesn't work,
you've simply polished your skills and learned something
new.
Let me illustrate this by telling you about one of my
favorite students, David W. David is, to put it charitably,
unattractive. He's 6 foot, 270 pounds, dresses like slob on
his best days, and on a scale of one to 10, 10 being a
Greek god, he's a 3.
David also happens to be sleeping with four gorgeous
women, all of whom are either aerobics instructors or
tri-athletes.
What made this success possible? Well to quote him, "I
thought to myself, hey, since this isn't going to work, I
might as well pick the best looking women in the gym for it
to fail on and see what happens".
Because he didn't need to make it work, and took a
relaxed, experimental attitude, he got out of his own way
and is now the envy of his friends, who still don't believe
him when he told them about my stuff. (
Condition Two: Sufficient Time To Speak With Your
Subject To Run A Minimum Of Two (Preferably Three) Patterns
On Her.
As I'm fond of saying, a lone pattern, by itself, is
like a lone piranha; nasty, but hardly deadly. To be
effective, patterns have to be run in sequences, and I
strongly prefer to stick in a minimum of three.
Can you do patterns strung out over a period of time if
you really don't have much of a chance to talk to a woman?
Sure...but your effectiveness goes WAY down.
Look at it like this; in a boxing match you could land
one solid punch per round, for fifteen rounds, but it's
much more effective to slam the guy with the fifteen
punches one after another.
Condition Three: Enough Flexibility To Get The Initial
Entryway Into Her Neurology
When you start running patterns on a woman, the point
is to find that initial entry into her neurology that
lights her up and gets a strong response.
Sometimes this requires you to cycle through a few
approaches. As an example, I was having dinner with a
friend who I hadn't seen in some time, and I was explaining
to him how SS works. Rather than continue to try to
explain, I decided to demonstrate on our tasty little
waitress. I started out by telling her that I had an
intuition about her, that she was a very visual person.
What was her response? Just about zero. She showed NO
interest and no response. Obviously, appealing to her
visual imagination was not the doorway into her mind.
I then moved to another favorite ploy and allowed her
to "overhear" my staged conversation with my friend,
wherein I talked to him about how women select men for
different roles, but no man can give everything a woman
needs. (This will often get them talking if they have a
boyfriend and aren't happy with him, which is pretty damn
often).
Again, zero response. Zip. Nada. By this time, my old
friend was looking more and more skeptical. Did old Ross
give up...just pack it in and quit? Not on your life,
Cedric.
Next time she came by the table I mentioned the fact
that I had just been reading an article about how men and
women connect with each other. (I was trying to get in here
using the emotional doorway). No luck with this approach
either; perhaps she just didn't know how to read and was
embarrassed by the fact.
How I Changed My “Strategy” To Get Into Her Mind
So by this time, I figured it was time to switch
strategies. Leaning back in my chair, I looked at her
across the restaurant, turned on my intuition and asked
myself, "What can I notice about her that has to be true
that I can use to make a connection?"
What I noticed in this poor, overworked food-server's
case is that she looked tired as hell. So next time she
came by the table I said, "You know, you sure look like you
could use a vacation. If you could imagine your ideal
vacation spot, what would it be like?"
Well, mercy's sake, wouldn't you know that at that
point she dropped straight into trance and begin to imagine
her day on the perfect beach, soaking up the sun, feeling
the warm water and the cool breeze? Of course, from there,
I went straight into the bl*w job pattern, talking about
how interesting it was to me how people connect with their
fantasies and desires and day dreams and about how I was
just reading an article about the difference between
compulsions and anticipation... Did she respond strongly to
this?
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Only with a super-doggie dinner bowl look that my
Dalmatians couldn't have produced during a hunger strike!
(My Dalmatians would NEVER have gone on a hunger strike!)
Now what is the point of this story? Just that I
wouldn't have been able to do this if I didn't have the
ability/flexibility to keep right on going when the first
three approaches I tried fell flatter than a pre-pubescent
girl's chest.
So look; if you're having some trouble with your Speed
Seduction skills, chances are it's due to a problem with
one of these vital conditions. Pull yourself up short, take
a breather and re-assess what you've been doing. If you've
been putting yourself in situations that are stacked
against you, (e.g., the girl's always too busy to talk, or
your attitude is just plain off) re-arrange things so the
odds are more in your favor. You'll find SS still yields
results for you light-years beyond anything else out there.
After all, David W. has only been able to figure out
how to make it work for him in the gym. He still can't pick
up a girl on the street to save his life. But with four
firm, young, perfect-bodied athletic women to console him I
don't feel too sorry for him. Go thou and do likewise.
‘Til next time,
Piece and Peace,
Ross
This newsletter, and all of its contents are copyright
2004, Ross Jeffries. However this newsletter may be
reprinted and re-used in any format, without prior
consent, provided all content, including all links,
are kept intact, proper credit for authorship is given,
and the newsletter is given for free, without charge.
Believe it or not, your old pal Ross actually has his
critics. People who don't like me..People who think I
shouldn't be teaching you what I'm teaching. One of the
things I hear most often from these morons is something
along the likes of, "C'mon now, Ross. What you're talking
about couldn't possibly work. In fact, it sounds like
magic."
Now, I don't really care what these pinheads think. But
I am concerned that YOU, dear reader, understand what Speed
Seduction® is all about. And it certainly ISN'T magic.
Now, don't get me wrong. If you're like some of my
clients when they are first starting out, without having
been intimate with a woman for years and then suddenly you
are enjoying 2, 3 even 4 hot women at a time, , it might
seem like magic.
In fact, Speed Seduction(R) is mechanics.
That means it requires a certain sequence, set of
circumstances and applications in order for it to work.
Within that framework, it's massively powerful, but that
framework still has to be there.
Just like a super-charged, perfectly tuned, 450
horsepower, V-8 engine won't run without the oxygen to burn
the fuel, Speed Seduction only works when there are certain
necessary conditions.
Thankfully those conditions have nothing whatsoever to
do with your looks, age, money, social status or other
"externals" outside of your control. In this issue, I'm
going to review what those conditions are, and how you can
use all this to massively increase the quantity and quality
of your babe hunting.
Condition One:You've Got To Be In The Right Frame Of
Mind
As I've said time and again, the patterns I teach are
NOT just another high tech way to beg you into some girl's
pants. If you view them like this, then, even if you
deliver them flawlessly from a technical standpoint, you
are still going to get nowhere because your weak-ass,
piss-ant, puss-wimp attitude will.......
... ...Totally Annihilate The Emotional States You Are
Attempting To Create In Your Subject! (
How does this self-defeating process take place?
Simple.
As I have said time and again, in any area of life, if
you are coming from a place of hunger, or need, or
desperately trying to prove to yourself that you can win
again, then you almost certainly guaranteed to fail. You'll
simply push away the very thing you want and get locked
into a self-perpetuating "defeat-cycle" that gets you
nowhere.
If you want to be hilariously successful with Speed
Seduction, then you must realize that the patterns aren't
about begging. They certainly aren't about tricking or
misleading.
No, sir, the patterns are about being able to create
such incredible states of pleasure and fun and highs for
her that no one else can, such that she really WANTS to
give you her sexual goodies. They're about creating states
for her that no one else can.
Viewed like this, that incredible babe you want to bed
isn't someone you need to fear. She's someone who's about
to receive an incredible gift from you, a gift she might
continue to receive IF she's smart enough and hot enough
and sexy enough to give you what it takes to keep YOU
coming back for more.
Just imagine the difference when you can look at a
honey-pie and honestly think to yourself, "How good can
this woman stand to feel? Let's go have fun and find out!".
Speaking of fun, another big part of being in the right
frame of mind to make SS work is refusing to take it
seriously.
By that, I mean you take the attitude that you are
experimenting, having fun, and if what you do doesn't work,
you've simply polished your skills and learned something
new.
Let me illustrate this by telling you about one of my
favorite students, David W. David is, to put it charitably,
unattractive. He's 6 foot, 270 pounds, dresses like slob on
his best days, and on a scale of one to 10, 10 being a
Greek god, he's a 3.
David also happens to be sleeping with four gorgeous
women, all of whom are either aerobics instructors or
tri-athletes.
What made this success possible? Well to quote him, "I
thought to myself, hey, since this isn't going to work, I
might as well pick the best looking women in the gym for it
to fail on and see what happens".
Because he didn't need to make it work, and took a
relaxed, experimental attitude, he got out of his own way
and is now the envy of his friends, who still don't believe
him when he told them about my stuff. (
Condition Two: Sufficient Time To Speak With Your
Subject To Run A Minimum Of Two (Preferably Three) Patterns
On Her.
As I'm fond of saying, a lone pattern, by itself, is
like a lone piranha; nasty, but hardly deadly. To be
effective, patterns have to be run in sequences, and I
strongly prefer to stick in a minimum of three.
Can you do patterns strung out over a period of time if
you really don't have much of a chance to talk to a woman?
Sure...but your effectiveness goes WAY down.
Look at it like this; in a boxing match you could land
one solid punch per round, for fifteen rounds, but it's
much more effective to slam the guy with the fifteen
punches one after another.
Condition Three: Enough Flexibility To Get The Initial
Entryway Into Her Neurology
When you start running patterns on a woman, the point
is to find that initial entry into her neurology that
lights her up and gets a strong response.
Sometimes this requires you to cycle through a few
approaches. As an example, I was having dinner with a
friend who I hadn't seen in some time, and I was explaining
to him how SS works. Rather than continue to try to
explain, I decided to demonstrate on our tasty little
waitress. I started out by telling her that I had an
intuition about her, that she was a very visual person.
What was her response? Just about zero. She showed NO
interest and no response. Obviously, appealing to her
visual imagination was not the doorway into her mind.
I then moved to another favorite ploy and allowed her
to "overhear" my staged conversation with my friend,
wherein I talked to him about how women select men for
different roles, but no man can give everything a woman
needs. (This will often get them talking if they have a
boyfriend and aren't happy with him, which is pretty damn
often).
Again, zero response. Zip. Nada. By this time, my old
friend was looking more and more skeptical. Did old Ross
give up...just pack it in and quit? Not on your life,
Cedric.
Next time she came by the table I mentioned the fact
that I had just been reading an article about how men and
women connect with each other. (I was trying to get in here
using the emotional doorway). No luck with this approach
either; perhaps she just didn't know how to read and was
embarrassed by the fact.
How I Changed My “Strategy” To Get Into Her Mind
So by this time, I figured it was time to switch
strategies. Leaning back in my chair, I looked at her
across the restaurant, turned on my intuition and asked
myself, "What can I notice about her that has to be true
that I can use to make a connection?"
What I noticed in this poor, overworked food-server's
case is that she looked tired as hell. So next time she
came by the table I said, "You know, you sure look like you
could use a vacation. If you could imagine your ideal
vacation spot, what would it be like?"
Well, mercy's sake, wouldn't you know that at that
point she dropped straight into trance and begin to imagine
her day on the perfect beach, soaking up the sun, feeling
the warm water and the cool breeze? Of course, from there,
I went straight into the bl*w job pattern, talking about
how interesting it was to me how people connect with their
fantasies and desires and day dreams and about how I was
just reading an article about the difference between
compulsions and anticipation... Did she respond strongly to
this?
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Only with a super-doggie dinner bowl look that my
Dalmatians couldn't have produced during a hunger strike!
(My Dalmatians would NEVER have gone on a hunger strike!)
Now what is the point of this story? Just that I
wouldn't have been able to do this if I didn't have the
ability/flexibility to keep right on going when the first
three approaches I tried fell flatter than a pre-pubescent
girl's chest.
So look; if you're having some trouble with your Speed
Seduction skills, chances are it's due to a problem with
one of these vital conditions. Pull yourself up short, take
a breather and re-assess what you've been doing. If you've
been putting yourself in situations that are stacked
against you, (e.g., the girl's always too busy to talk, or
your attitude is just plain off) re-arrange things so the
odds are more in your favor. You'll find SS still yields
results for you light-years beyond anything else out there.
After all, David W. has only been able to figure out
how to make it work for him in the gym. He still can't pick
up a girl on the street to save his life. But with four
firm, young, perfect-bodied athletic women to console him I
don't feel too sorry for him. Go thou and do likewise.
‘Til next time,
Piece and Peace,
Ross
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Wednesday, December 29, 2010
7 Tips To Supercharge Your Speed Seduction® Success!
Dear Speed Seduction® Student,
Part of learning any new technology is understanding some
basic principles. So here are some tips that I have found have
helped many clients with the initial Speed Seduction learning
curve. Remember, a huge part of Speed Seduction is learning to
use your language to...
Capture and Lead A Woman's Imagination and Emotions!
As I have taught again and again, whatever you can get a
person to imagine will be perceived by them to be their own
thought, and thus will not be resisted. Women especially like to
be led by their imagination and emotions! Then, and only then,
will they give you the behaviors (love, sex, etc) that you crave
and want. Remember, women want good feelings, and all of the
tools and language patterns in the Speed Seduction Home Study
course are geared toward either doing this or gathering the
information you need to do this.
Tip 1: The patterns are examples, NOT rules. Many students
think that unless they present the patterns to women, word for
word, that they won't work or get results. THIS IS JUST 100%
FALSE! The patterns are only examples..very GOOD examples..of
the kinds of communication that turn women on. They give you the
structure. But they aren't meant to be rigidly or exclusively
followed. Learn from them HOW they work, and you'll be able to
quickly create your own patterns.
Tip 2: Women enjoy the patterns, so forget about being
caught. So many beginning clients feel like they are doing
something wrong...a small minor crime like picking a pocket or
stealing a wrist-watch when they approach women to do the
patterns! Hey..the patterns are designed to make women feel
wonderful! At the very least you are brightening her day and
doing her a favor and at best turning her on unlike anyone else
ever has! So far from feeling bad, you ought to excited about
the gift you are giving her!
Tip 3: Practice the patterns out loud! The patterns are meant
to be SPOKEN, not read! You can't really master the tonality and
tempo unless you practice OUT LOUD! THIS STEP IS CRITICAL!
Tip 4: Take a little bit each day! Speed Seduction is like
learning a whole new language and a whole new way of thinking!
Be fair to yourself and master it all naturally as it comes!
Take your time and just do a little bit every day! You'll be
shocked at how much you master in just a few weeks time!
Tip 5: Pattern Flow Is Important! One of the most crucial
skills is knowing how to transition from one pattern to another!
In one letter, I explained how to make flash cards to quickly
learn how to flow from one pattern to the next! If you haven't
done that...DO IT NOW!
Tip 6: Understand The Conversational Set-ups! Patterns are
hard to use if you don't know how to introduce them and bring
them up in conversation! For each pattern you want to use you
ought to have at least two ways of bringing it up! I cover this
in several of the Newsletters, so if you haven't got them, all
the back issues are in the back of the workbook in the
Basic/Delux Home Study Course.
Tip 7: Practice Your Closing! So many guys have told me
they've run patterns but when it comes time to closing the
deal..they are stuck! Well, as I have said, if you want a
result, you've got to rehearse it! So prepare your closes in
advance so they flow from you naturally and without thought when
you need them! Along those lines, here are some EXCELLENT
closes:
Close #1: Why don't we continue this somewhere else and see
how much we can enjoy each others company?
Close #2: It's too bad you're not the type of person who can
imagine being together, feeling and doing all the things you
love to feel and do..for all the reasons that make sense to
you..but as you think about it just like that..doesn't it just
seem that spending some time together is something we have to
do?
Close #3: So..what steps would we have to take in order to
make sure we can talk again?
Close #4: I have an intuition..and I don't know if you can
imagine this as I describe it..that when we get a chance to talk
without time pressures or interruptions...we'll really enjoy
each others company..and I'm wondering if there's a number
where you feel comfortable having me call you.
Piece and Peace
Ross
P.S You can get your Speed Seduction® Home Study Course at:
http://www.speedseduction.net/products/rj87.asp
This newsletter, and all of its contents are copyright Ross Jeffries. However this newsletter may be reprinted and re-used in any format, without prior consent, provided all content, including all links, are kept intact, proper credit for authorship is given, and the newsletter is given for free, without charge.
Part of learning any new technology is understanding some
basic principles. So here are some tips that I have found have
helped many clients with the initial Speed Seduction learning
curve. Remember, a huge part of Speed Seduction is learning to
use your language to...
Capture and Lead A Woman's Imagination and Emotions!
As I have taught again and again, whatever you can get a
person to imagine will be perceived by them to be their own
thought, and thus will not be resisted. Women especially like to
be led by their imagination and emotions! Then, and only then,
will they give you the behaviors (love, sex, etc) that you crave
and want. Remember, women want good feelings, and all of the
tools and language patterns in the Speed Seduction Home Study
course are geared toward either doing this or gathering the
information you need to do this.
Tip 1: The patterns are examples, NOT rules. Many students
think that unless they present the patterns to women, word for
word, that they won't work or get results. THIS IS JUST 100%
FALSE! The patterns are only examples..very GOOD examples..of
the kinds of communication that turn women on. They give you the
structure. But they aren't meant to be rigidly or exclusively
followed. Learn from them HOW they work, and you'll be able to
quickly create your own patterns.
Tip 2: Women enjoy the patterns, so forget about being
caught. So many beginning clients feel like they are doing
something wrong...a small minor crime like picking a pocket or
stealing a wrist-watch when they approach women to do the
patterns! Hey..the patterns are designed to make women feel
wonderful! At the very least you are brightening her day and
doing her a favor and at best turning her on unlike anyone else
ever has! So far from feeling bad, you ought to excited about
the gift you are giving her!
Tip 3: Practice the patterns out loud! The patterns are meant
to be SPOKEN, not read! You can't really master the tonality and
tempo unless you practice OUT LOUD! THIS STEP IS CRITICAL!
Tip 4: Take a little bit each day! Speed Seduction is like
learning a whole new language and a whole new way of thinking!
Be fair to yourself and master it all naturally as it comes!
Take your time and just do a little bit every day! You'll be
shocked at how much you master in just a few weeks time!
Tip 5: Pattern Flow Is Important! One of the most crucial
skills is knowing how to transition from one pattern to another!
In one letter, I explained how to make flash cards to quickly
learn how to flow from one pattern to the next! If you haven't
done that...DO IT NOW!
Tip 6: Understand The Conversational Set-ups! Patterns are
hard to use if you don't know how to introduce them and bring
them up in conversation! For each pattern you want to use you
ought to have at least two ways of bringing it up! I cover this
in several of the Newsletters, so if you haven't got them, all
the back issues are in the back of the workbook in the
Basic/Delux Home Study Course.
Tip 7: Practice Your Closing! So many guys have told me
they've run patterns but when it comes time to closing the
deal..they are stuck! Well, as I have said, if you want a
result, you've got to rehearse it! So prepare your closes in
advance so they flow from you naturally and without thought when
you need them! Along those lines, here are some EXCELLENT
closes:
Close #1: Why don't we continue this somewhere else and see
how much we can enjoy each others company?
Close #2: It's too bad you're not the type of person who can
imagine being together, feeling and doing all the things you
love to feel and do..for all the reasons that make sense to
you..but as you think about it just like that..doesn't it just
seem that spending some time together is something we have to
do?
Close #3: So..what steps would we have to take in order to
make sure we can talk again?
Close #4: I have an intuition..and I don't know if you can
imagine this as I describe it..that when we get a chance to talk
without time pressures or interruptions...we'll really enjoy
each others company..and I'm wondering if there's a number
where you feel comfortable having me call you.
Piece and Peace
Ross
P.S You can get your Speed Seduction® Home Study Course at:
http://www.speedseduction.net/products/rj87.asp
This newsletter, and all of its contents are copyright Ross Jeffries. However this newsletter may be reprinted and re-used in any format, without prior consent, provided all content, including all links, are kept intact, proper credit for authorship is given, and the newsletter is given for free, without charge.
Friday, December 10, 2010
How To Meet Women, Anytime, Anywhere, Part I
Dear Speed Seduction® Student,
One of the most common questions I have gotten in my 11 years of teaching Speed Seduction® is: what are some good and easy ways to meet women?
Recently, someone sent me an email, where, among other things, he said, “I hate going to clubs and bars, and at 35 years old, I feel out of place in them anyway.”
Now, this is one of the most common questions I get. And it's good to see a guy up there in his 30's still pushing for what he really wants.
Personally, as a 45 year old geezer who is as close to ugly as you can get without getting your face banned by the FDA, I still go for and GET women in their mid 20's(occasionally I will pull a 21-22 year old) and I never set foot in clubs.
But clubs or not, there ARE master keys for a guy of any age, to be meeting women, anytime anywhere. And believe me, this skill IS important.
You see, so many guys who are fixated on one girl, convinced SHE is the woman of their dreams whom they must have would actually dump her in a heartbeat if they knew they could go out and meet 10 hot women that same day they were pining over their 'dream girl"(who probably isn't giving them any anyway).
Hey…I'm sorry if I seem flippant here. But the reality is, the skill of meeting women anytime, anywhere, is crucial to avoiding what I call..
Relationships By Default!
You see, it has long been a theory of mine that MOST men don’t really wind up with the woman they really want. For most men, "dating" is such a form of roll the dice/crap shoot/gambling that they usually wind up settling for the woman who accidentally was attracted to them instead of the woman or women they really want.
Does this sound familiar?
Hey-I'm sorry if this seems harsh to you, but I call 'em like I see 'em. (And wow, did this ever get me booed and even physically attacked when I used to spout it on talk shows way back in the early and mid 90's.
Anyway, enough rambling. What I'm about to introduce you to is light years ahead of anything else out there, primarily because IT DOES NOT RELY ON CANNED LINES.
Yes, lines can be useful. Yes, lines can work. And I'll even give you some that are actually quite good.
But the key to remember is, with any line, it is the ATTITUDE that will determine how well the line works.
The Incredible Power Of Attitudes And Approach Positions
Basically then, there are 4 different attitudes or "approach positions"
The first one I'd like to talk about is one of my very favorite, and I call it "the Blurt Out".
The Blurt Out pretty much is what it sounds like; you "blurt out" whatever is actually going through your mind when you first spot the lady who has your attention, without any "editing" on your part (Ok, here's an exception: if your first thought is, "Damn, I have to touch those breasts!" it's probably best NOT to blurt that out!!
What I like about the Blurt Out is that it is coming from a place of vulnerability and sincerity. It's almost like you are thinking out loud, so women tend to automatically react without suspicion and be much more open and friendly to your approach.
The Blurt Out also works because you are implying something about your confidence, without saying it. What you are implying is, "hey, I'm a sincere guy, with real guts. I'm telling you what I really think, and I'm putting my head on the chopping block and handing you the axe. Will you be a horrible person and a coward and chop my head off or will you be as cool as me and be open to talking?"
The Blurt Out tends to work best with women in motion; either women who are walking directly toward you or women with whom you are walking parallel/side to side.
Just as an example of the Blurt Out in action, I once met a very hot 24 year old Canadian chick. I was in a parking structure for a shopping mall. She was walking up the steps, as I was walking down.
As I passed her I blurted out exactly what I was thinking in that moment, which was, "Wow..you've got style to burn!" just as if I was thinking out loud. She turned around, walked back down the steps and SHE initiated the conversation and later invited me to go get a beer.
That's the key to this approach, again. Just blurt out whatever you are thinking when you see her. Even if your thoughts happen to be shy or fearful, express what you are thinking, as in, "I realized if I kept hesitating, I'd never get to meet you and I'd kick myself for a week. So I had to come up and say SOMETHING. I'm "Your Name Here"
Can you see how totally sincere and disarming this approach could be? Especially for very good looking women who keep having all sorts of bullshit thrown their way.
The Blurt Out Plus The Implied Compliment
With an implied compliment, you don't actually say that YOU think the woman in question is hot or stylish or beautiful. You just imply it by how you state it.
Here's an example: walking around an outdoor mall, I spotted a woman who just walked incredibly gracefully. So I walked beside her and said, "It's just that I really admire women who carry themselves with grace and power..so I had to say "Hi"."
See the implied compliment? I didn't say it directly, I implied it. I said I admired women with who carry themselves with grace and power. Since I was talking to her, that must mean I think that about her.
But HER mind had to fill in the blank and apply the compliment to herself. Since this was an ACTIVE process involving her own mind, it wasn't perceived as coming from an outsider, but rather something she herself thought. And so it goes in without resistance!
This is a sneaky way to communicate, but you'll learn a lot more about the power of implication to move the thoughts, imagination, and emotions of women in ways you can't yet dream possible!
Approach Position Two: Observation, Comment or Question
The second approach position or attitude is what I call the "observation, comment or question". You can combine these with a sense of humor or just do them straight up, and they work best in a setting where neither you or the woman is in motion, so you have some time to make your observation.
The biggest advantage with these is they are non-threatening and you don't have to rely on anything canned to fit the situation.
(By the way, when thinking of something to say, one of the key questions I'll ask myself is, "What can I notice, observe or intuit about this person that I can use to make a connection? A good way to send your mind in the right direction).
Observations, comments and questions of course depend on the situation ongoing, and I usually quickly follow them up with something funny, often a put-on(which is our third approach position or attitude, so we'll get there in a minute).
Real life example: I was in a gas station, filling up my car. The woman next to me was putting gas in her giant white Mercedes. I said, "How do you like your Mercedes?" (See..simple question!)
Her response, "I love it. How do you like your SAAB?"
Ok, she's answering back, so I know at least she's friendly. I said, "I like it."
Then I jumped right to a put-on, which is an easy thing to follow up any comment, observation or question.
I said, "It's too short."
She said, "What? The Mercedes. I think it's pretty long.
I said, "No, it's too short."
She said, "What is?"
I said,"Life…to hestitate…when you meet someone you think is incredibly attractive."
She smiled and said, "Thank you!"
I then playfully hit her on the shoulder and said, "I was talking about ME!"
This got MORE laughter and then names were exchanged, and shortly thereafter, phone numbers as well.
My point: observations, comments and questions can be followed up with almost anything and combined with almost anything.
A favorite question opener of mine actually combines a question with a compliment, as in, "Do you do a martial art? You carry yourself with discpline and elegance..it's a very rare and attractive trait."
By the way, when it comes to compliments to pick up women, I prefer to IMPLY them or combine them with a question and I prefer to strongly compliment a woman on how she moves or her "energy". For some reason these are lot more acceptable and less threatening and perceived as more sincere than direct comments
about her looks.
Approach Position 3: The Put-On
Now we come to my favorite "approach position" the put-on. The put-on is simply a humorous approach where you pretend something to get her attention. For example, if a woman is walking in my direction and is wearing a t-shirt with a logo or design, I will look confused, point at the shirt and say, "I don't get it".
Usually, the response is, "Don't get what?" To which I always say, "The shirt. What's it mean?"
At this point, I almost always get an explanation from her about the logo or symbol, to which my response is to pretend to disagree and argue in the most ridiculous way.
Example: sitting in a yogurt shop, a young lady with very large breasts walked in. She was wearing a tight t-shirt with a slogan that said, "Free the Afghans"!.
I pretended that I thought the shirt was about Afghan DOGS. You know..the shaggy haired, long-legged dogs you sometimes see accompanying models in photo shoots?
I said, "who is holding a bunch of dogs captive? Why do you want to free them? Do you want more dogs to be strays?"
She tried explaining, and I kept misunderstanding. Then I made a joke about being so good looking I didn't need to be smart. Then I introduced myself.
If you want a good idea of the overall attitude for this approach, think of Bugs Bunny. Or Groucho Marx. Or Leslie Nielsen from the "Police Squad" movies.
One more example of a put-on approach. I was sitting in a local café and seated behind me was a very attractive young Asian woman. I observed that she was thinking very hard, talking to herself, trying to figure out her economics book.
So I turned to her and said, as seriously as could, "Could I ask you not to think too loud? You look like a loud thinker, and I have very important writing to do."
My friend, who was sitting across from me said she couldn't stop looking at me after that and could not go back to studying! I turned to her a minute later and said, "Look…I asked you nicely not to think so loud! Don't make me call the management!"
At that point, SHE began a conversation.
There are many, many ways to enjoy a put on. And you can combine it with an observation as in this last example; my observation about this girl was that she really was, "thinking loud"-she was having trouble trying to figure out what she was reading and so she WAS talking to herself, internally, in her head, which is a way of "thinking loud".
Approach Position #4: Genuine Intuition
The final approach position is what I would call a genuine intuition. This is more rare and harder to do. But did you ever find yourself just looking at someone and you just KNEW that person? Like something deep inside you connected with something deep inside them and you just KNEW them?
In this case, when this happens, go with your intuition and tell them what you observe. It's close to an observation, but the difference with this position is, it really isn't something you could pick up with your physical 5 senses.
This is advanced stuff that will come in time, so I wouldn't worry about it for now. But as an example, I was once sitting in my favorite coffee place. As this beautiful blonde woman walked in the door, I saw an image of her on stage, singing. So as she walked by I just said, "How long have you been a singer?"
It totally blew her away. And a long conversation followed. So if you have a strong intuition, just run with it and give it a shot. It's a bit risky, but when it works it has an incredible impact.
Ok. That's it for this issue. Next we'll continue to take up this thread and tell you more great ways to meet women, anytime, anywhere. Until then,
Peace and piece,
Ross
P.S. Want real success and power with the women of your choice, instead of the women you have to settle for? Your Speed Seduction® Home Study Course is waiting for you! Just go to
http://www.speedseduction.net/products/rj87.asp today!
This newsletter, and all of its contents are copyright Ross Jeffries. However this newsletter may be reprinted and re-used in any format, without prior consent, provided all content, including all links, are kept intact, proper credit for authorship is given, and the newsletter is given for free, without charge.
One of the most common questions I have gotten in my 11 years of teaching Speed Seduction® is: what are some good and easy ways to meet women?
Recently, someone sent me an email, where, among other things, he said, “I hate going to clubs and bars, and at 35 years old, I feel out of place in them anyway.”
Now, this is one of the most common questions I get. And it's good to see a guy up there in his 30's still pushing for what he really wants.
Personally, as a 45 year old geezer who is as close to ugly as you can get without getting your face banned by the FDA, I still go for and GET women in their mid 20's(occasionally I will pull a 21-22 year old) and I never set foot in clubs.
But clubs or not, there ARE master keys for a guy of any age, to be meeting women, anytime anywhere. And believe me, this skill IS important.
You see, so many guys who are fixated on one girl, convinced SHE is the woman of their dreams whom they must have would actually dump her in a heartbeat if they knew they could go out and meet 10 hot women that same day they were pining over their 'dream girl"(who probably isn't giving them any anyway).
Hey…I'm sorry if I seem flippant here. But the reality is, the skill of meeting women anytime, anywhere, is crucial to avoiding what I call..
Relationships By Default!
You see, it has long been a theory of mine that MOST men don’t really wind up with the woman they really want. For most men, "dating" is such a form of roll the dice/crap shoot/gambling that they usually wind up settling for the woman who accidentally was attracted to them instead of the woman or women they really want.
Does this sound familiar?
Hey-I'm sorry if this seems harsh to you, but I call 'em like I see 'em. (And wow, did this ever get me booed and even physically attacked when I used to spout it on talk shows way back in the early and mid 90's.
Anyway, enough rambling. What I'm about to introduce you to is light years ahead of anything else out there, primarily because IT DOES NOT RELY ON CANNED LINES.
Yes, lines can be useful. Yes, lines can work. And I'll even give you some that are actually quite good.
But the key to remember is, with any line, it is the ATTITUDE that will determine how well the line works.
The Incredible Power Of Attitudes And Approach Positions
Basically then, there are 4 different attitudes or "approach positions"
The first one I'd like to talk about is one of my very favorite, and I call it "the Blurt Out".
The Blurt Out pretty much is what it sounds like; you "blurt out" whatever is actually going through your mind when you first spot the lady who has your attention, without any "editing" on your part (Ok, here's an exception: if your first thought is, "Damn, I have to touch those breasts!" it's probably best NOT to blurt that out!!
What I like about the Blurt Out is that it is coming from a place of vulnerability and sincerity. It's almost like you are thinking out loud, so women tend to automatically react without suspicion and be much more open and friendly to your approach.
The Blurt Out also works because you are implying something about your confidence, without saying it. What you are implying is, "hey, I'm a sincere guy, with real guts. I'm telling you what I really think, and I'm putting my head on the chopping block and handing you the axe. Will you be a horrible person and a coward and chop my head off or will you be as cool as me and be open to talking?"
The Blurt Out tends to work best with women in motion; either women who are walking directly toward you or women with whom you are walking parallel/side to side.
Just as an example of the Blurt Out in action, I once met a very hot 24 year old Canadian chick. I was in a parking structure for a shopping mall. She was walking up the steps, as I was walking down.
As I passed her I blurted out exactly what I was thinking in that moment, which was, "Wow..you've got style to burn!" just as if I was thinking out loud. She turned around, walked back down the steps and SHE initiated the conversation and later invited me to go get a beer.
That's the key to this approach, again. Just blurt out whatever you are thinking when you see her. Even if your thoughts happen to be shy or fearful, express what you are thinking, as in, "I realized if I kept hesitating, I'd never get to meet you and I'd kick myself for a week. So I had to come up and say SOMETHING. I'm "Your Name Here"
Can you see how totally sincere and disarming this approach could be? Especially for very good looking women who keep having all sorts of bullshit thrown their way.
The Blurt Out Plus The Implied Compliment
With an implied compliment, you don't actually say that YOU think the woman in question is hot or stylish or beautiful. You just imply it by how you state it.
Here's an example: walking around an outdoor mall, I spotted a woman who just walked incredibly gracefully. So I walked beside her and said, "It's just that I really admire women who carry themselves with grace and power..so I had to say "Hi"."
See the implied compliment? I didn't say it directly, I implied it. I said I admired women with who carry themselves with grace and power. Since I was talking to her, that must mean I think that about her.
But HER mind had to fill in the blank and apply the compliment to herself. Since this was an ACTIVE process involving her own mind, it wasn't perceived as coming from an outsider, but rather something she herself thought. And so it goes in without resistance!
This is a sneaky way to communicate, but you'll learn a lot more about the power of implication to move the thoughts, imagination, and emotions of women in ways you can't yet dream possible!
Approach Position Two: Observation, Comment or Question
The second approach position or attitude is what I call the "observation, comment or question". You can combine these with a sense of humor or just do them straight up, and they work best in a setting where neither you or the woman is in motion, so you have some time to make your observation.
The biggest advantage with these is they are non-threatening and you don't have to rely on anything canned to fit the situation.
(By the way, when thinking of something to say, one of the key questions I'll ask myself is, "What can I notice, observe or intuit about this person that I can use to make a connection? A good way to send your mind in the right direction).
Observations, comments and questions of course depend on the situation ongoing, and I usually quickly follow them up with something funny, often a put-on(which is our third approach position or attitude, so we'll get there in a minute).
Real life example: I was in a gas station, filling up my car. The woman next to me was putting gas in her giant white Mercedes. I said, "How do you like your Mercedes?" (See..simple question!)
Her response, "I love it. How do you like your SAAB?"
Ok, she's answering back, so I know at least she's friendly. I said, "I like it."
Then I jumped right to a put-on, which is an easy thing to follow up any comment, observation or question.
I said, "It's too short."
She said, "What? The Mercedes. I think it's pretty long.
I said, "No, it's too short."
She said, "What is?"
I said,"Life…to hestitate…when you meet someone you think is incredibly attractive."
She smiled and said, "Thank you!"
I then playfully hit her on the shoulder and said, "I was talking about ME!"
This got MORE laughter and then names were exchanged, and shortly thereafter, phone numbers as well.
My point: observations, comments and questions can be followed up with almost anything and combined with almost anything.
A favorite question opener of mine actually combines a question with a compliment, as in, "Do you do a martial art? You carry yourself with discpline and elegance..it's a very rare and attractive trait."
By the way, when it comes to compliments to pick up women, I prefer to IMPLY them or combine them with a question and I prefer to strongly compliment a woman on how she moves or her "energy". For some reason these are lot more acceptable and less threatening and perceived as more sincere than direct comments
about her looks.
Approach Position 3: The Put-On
Now we come to my favorite "approach position" the put-on. The put-on is simply a humorous approach where you pretend something to get her attention. For example, if a woman is walking in my direction and is wearing a t-shirt with a logo or design, I will look confused, point at the shirt and say, "I don't get it".
Usually, the response is, "Don't get what?" To which I always say, "The shirt. What's it mean?"
At this point, I almost always get an explanation from her about the logo or symbol, to which my response is to pretend to disagree and argue in the most ridiculous way.
Example: sitting in a yogurt shop, a young lady with very large breasts walked in. She was wearing a tight t-shirt with a slogan that said, "Free the Afghans"!.
I pretended that I thought the shirt was about Afghan DOGS. You know..the shaggy haired, long-legged dogs you sometimes see accompanying models in photo shoots?
I said, "who is holding a bunch of dogs captive? Why do you want to free them? Do you want more dogs to be strays?"
She tried explaining, and I kept misunderstanding. Then I made a joke about being so good looking I didn't need to be smart. Then I introduced myself.
If you want a good idea of the overall attitude for this approach, think of Bugs Bunny. Or Groucho Marx. Or Leslie Nielsen from the "Police Squad" movies.
One more example of a put-on approach. I was sitting in a local café and seated behind me was a very attractive young Asian woman. I observed that she was thinking very hard, talking to herself, trying to figure out her economics book.
So I turned to her and said, as seriously as could, "Could I ask you not to think too loud? You look like a loud thinker, and I have very important writing to do."
My friend, who was sitting across from me said she couldn't stop looking at me after that and could not go back to studying! I turned to her a minute later and said, "Look…I asked you nicely not to think so loud! Don't make me call the management!"
At that point, SHE began a conversation.
There are many, many ways to enjoy a put on. And you can combine it with an observation as in this last example; my observation about this girl was that she really was, "thinking loud"-she was having trouble trying to figure out what she was reading and so she WAS talking to herself, internally, in her head, which is a way of "thinking loud".
Approach Position #4: Genuine Intuition
The final approach position is what I would call a genuine intuition. This is more rare and harder to do. But did you ever find yourself just looking at someone and you just KNEW that person? Like something deep inside you connected with something deep inside them and you just KNEW them?
In this case, when this happens, go with your intuition and tell them what you observe. It's close to an observation, but the difference with this position is, it really isn't something you could pick up with your physical 5 senses.
This is advanced stuff that will come in time, so I wouldn't worry about it for now. But as an example, I was once sitting in my favorite coffee place. As this beautiful blonde woman walked in the door, I saw an image of her on stage, singing. So as she walked by I just said, "How long have you been a singer?"
It totally blew her away. And a long conversation followed. So if you have a strong intuition, just run with it and give it a shot. It's a bit risky, but when it works it has an incredible impact.
Ok. That's it for this issue. Next we'll continue to take up this thread and tell you more great ways to meet women, anytime, anywhere. Until then,
Peace and piece,
Ross
P.S. Want real success and power with the women of your choice, instead of the women you have to settle for? Your Speed Seduction® Home Study Course is waiting for you! Just go to
http://www.speedseduction.net/products/rj87.asp today!
This newsletter, and all of its contents are copyright Ross Jeffries. However this newsletter may be reprinted and re-used in any format, without prior consent, provided all content, including all links, are kept intact, proper credit for authorship is given, and the newsletter is given for free, without charge.
Tuesday, December 7, 2010
How To Meet Women, Anytime, Anywhere, Part I
Dear Speed Seduction® Student,
One of the most common questions I have gotten in my 11 years of teaching Speed Seduction® is: what are some good and easy ways to meet women?
Recently, someone sent me an email, where, among other things, he said, “I hate going to clubs and bars, and at 35 years old, I feel out of place in them anyway.”
Now, this is one of the most common questions I get. And it's good to see a guy up there in his 30's still pushing for what he really wants.
Personally, as a 45 year old geezer who is as close to ugly as you can get without getting your face banned by the FDA, I still go for and GET women in their mid 20's(occasionally I will pull a 21-22 year old) and I never set foot in clubs.
But clubs or not, there ARE master keys for a guy of any age, to be meeting women, anytime anywhere. And believe me, this skill IS important.
You see, so many guys who are fixated on one girl, convinced SHE is the woman of their dreams whom they must have would actually dump her in a heartbeat if they knew they could go out and meet 10 hot women that same day they were pining over their 'dream girl"(who probably isn't giving them any anyway).
Hey…I'm sorry if I seem flippant here. But the reality is, the skill of meeting women anytime, anywhere, is crucial to avoiding what I call..
Relationships By Default!
You see, it has long been a theory of mine that MOST men don’t really wind up with the woman they really want. For most men, "dating" is such a form of roll the dice/crap shoot/gambling that they usually wind up settling for the woman who accidentally was attracted to them instead of the woman or women they really want.
Does this sound familiar?
Hey-I'm sorry if this seems harsh to you, but I call 'em like I see 'em. (And wow, did this ever get me booed and even physically attacked when I used to spout it on talk shows way back in the early and mid 90's.
Anyway, enough rambling. What I'm about to introduce you to is light years ahead of anything else out there, primarily because IT DOES NOT RELY ON CANNED LINES.
Yes, lines can be useful. Yes, lines can work. And I'll even give you some that are actually quite good.
But the key to remember is, with any line, it is the ATTITUDE that will determine how well the line works.
The Incredible Power Of Attitudes And Approach Positions
Basically then, there are 4 different attitudes or "approach positions"
The first one I'd like to talk about is one of my very favorite, and I call it "the Blurt Out".
The Blurt Out pretty much is what it sounds like; you "blurt out" whatever is actually going through your mind when you first spot the lady who has your attention, without any "editing" on your part (Ok, here's an exception: if your first thought is, "Damn, I have to touch those breasts!" it's probably best NOT to blurt that out!!
What I like about the Blurt Out is that it is coming from a place of vulnerability and sincerity. It's almost like you are thinking out loud, so women tend to automatically react without suspicion and be much more open and friendly to your approach.
The Blurt Out also works because you are implying something about your confidence, without saying it. What you are implying is, "hey, I'm a sincere guy, with real guts. I'm telling you what I really think, and I'm putting my head on the chopping block and handing you the axe. Will you be a horrible person and a coward and chop my head off or will you be as cool as me and be open to talking?"
The Blurt Out tends to work best with women in motion; either women who are walking directly toward you or women with whom you are walking parallel/side to side.
Just as an example of the Blurt Out in action, I once met a very hot 24 year old Canadian chick. I was in a parking structure for a shopping mall. She was walking up the steps, as I was walking down.
As I passed her I blurted out exactly what I was thinking in that moment, which was, "Wow..you've got style to burn!" just as if I was thinking out loud. She turned around, walked back down the steps and SHE initiated the conversation and later invited me to go get a beer.
That's the key to this approach, again. Just blurt out whatever you are thinking when you see her. Even if your thoughts happen to be shy or fearful, express what you are thinking, as in, "I realized if I kept hesitating, I'd never get to meet you and I'd kick myself for a week. So I had to come up and say SOMETHING. I'm "Your Name Here"
Can you see how totally sincere and disarming this approach could be? Especially for very good looking women who keep having all sorts of bullshit thrown their way.
The Blurt Out Plus The Implied Compliment
With an implied compliment, you don't actually say that YOU think the woman in question is hot or stylish or beautiful. You just imply it by how you state it.
Here's an example: walking around an outdoor mall, I spotted a woman who just walked incredibly gracefully. So I walked beside her and said, "It's just that I really admire women who carry themselves with grace and power..so I had to say "Hi"."
See the implied compliment? I didn't say it directly, I implied it. I said I admired women with who carry themselves with grace and power. Since I was talking to her, that must mean I think that about her.
But HER mind had to fill in the blank and apply the compliment to herself. Since this was an ACTIVE process involving her own mind, it wasn't perceived as coming from an outsider, but rather something she herself thought. And so it goes in without resistance!
This is a sneaky way to communicate, but you'll learn a lot more about the power of implication to move the thoughts, imagination, and emotions of women in ways you can't yet dream possible!
Approach Position Two: Observation, Comment or Question
The second approach position or attitude is what I call the "observation, comment or question". You can combine these with a sense of humor or just do them straight up, and they work best in a setting where neither you or the woman is in motion, so you have some time to make your observation.
The biggest advantage with these is they are non-threatening and you don't have to rely on anything canned to fit the situation.
(By the way, when thinking of something to say, one of the key questions I'll ask myself is, "What can I notice, observe or intuit about this person that I can use to make a connection? A good way to send your mind in the right direction).
Observations, comments and questions of course depend on the situation ongoing, and I usually quickly follow them up with something funny, often a put-on(which is our third approach position or attitude, so we'll get there in a minute).
Real life example: I was in a gas station, filling up my car. The woman next to me was putting gas in her giant white Mercedes. I said, "How do you like your Mercedes?" (See..simple question!)
Her response, "I love it. How do you like your SAAB?"
Ok, she's answering back, so I know at least she's friendly. I said, "I like it."
Then I jumped right to a put-on, which is an easy thing to follow up any comment, observation or question.
I said, "It's too short."
She said, "What? The Mercedes. I think it's pretty long.
I said, "No, it's too short."
She said, "What is?"
I said,"Life…to hestitate…when you meet someone you think is incredibly attractive."
She smiled and said, "Thank you!"
I then playfully hit her on the shoulder and said, "I was talking about ME!"
This got MORE laughter and then names were exchanged, and shortly thereafter, phone numbers as well.
My point: observations, comments and questions can be followed up with almost anything and combined with almost anything.
A favorite question opener of mine actually combines a question with a compliment, as in, "Do you do a martial art? You carry yourself with discpline and elegance..it's a very rare and attractive trait."
By the way, when it comes to compliments to pick up women, I prefer to IMPLY them or combine them with a question and I prefer to strongly compliment a woman on how she moves or her "energy". For some reason these are lot more acceptable and less threatening and perceived as more sincere than direct comments
about her looks.
Approach Position 3: The Put-On
Now we come to my favorite "approach position" the put-on. The put-on is simply a humorous approach where you pretend something to get her attention. For example, if a woman is walking in my direction and is wearing a t-shirt with a logo or design, I will look confused, point at the shirt and say, "I don't get it".
Usually, the response is, "Don't get what?" To which I always say, "The shirt. What's it mean?"
At this point, I almost always get an explanation from her about the logo or symbol, to which my response is to pretend to disagree and argue in the most ridiculous way.
Example: sitting in a yogurt shop, a young lady with very large breasts walked in. She was wearing a tight t-shirt with a slogan that said, "Free the Afghans"!.
I pretended that I thought the shirt was about Afghan DOGS. You know..the shaggy haired, long-legged dogs you sometimes see accompanying models in photo shoots?
I said, "who is holding a bunch of dogs captive? Why do you want to free them? Do you want more dogs to be strays?"
She tried explaining, and I kept misunderstanding. Then I made a joke about being so good looking I didn't need to be smart. Then I introduced myself.
If you want a good idea of the overall attitude for this approach, think of Bugs Bunny. Or Groucho Marx. Or Leslie Nielsen from the "Police Squad" movies.
One more example of a put-on approach. I was sitting in a local café and seated behind me was a very attractive young Asian woman. I observed that she was thinking very hard, talking to herself, trying to figure out her economics book.
So I turned to her and said, as seriously as could, "Could I ask you not to think too loud? You look like a loud thinker, and I have very important writing to do."
My friend, who was sitting across from me said she couldn't stop looking at me after that and could not go back to studying! I turned to her a minute later and said, "Look…I asked you nicely not to think so loud! Don't make me call the management!"
At that point, SHE began a conversation.
There are many, many ways to enjoy a put on. And you can combine it with an observation as in this last example; my observation about this girl was that she really was, "thinking loud"-she was having trouble trying to figure out what she was reading and so she WAS talking to herself, internally, in her head, which is a way of "thinking loud".
Approach Position #4: Genuine Intuition
The final approach position is what I would call a genuine intuition. This is more rare and harder to do. But did you ever find yourself just looking at someone and you just KNEW that person? Like something deep inside you connected with something deep inside them and you just KNEW them?
In this case, when this happens, go with your intuition and tell them what you observe. It's close to an observation, but the difference with this position is, it really isn't something you could pick up with your physical 5 senses.
This is advanced stuff that will come in time, so I wouldn't worry about it for now. But as an example, I was once sitting in my favorite coffee place. As this beautiful blonde woman walked in the door, I saw an image of her on stage, singing. So as she walked by I just said, "How long have you been a singer?"
It totally blew her away. And a long conversation followed. So if you have a strong intuition, just run with it and give it a shot. It's a bit risky, but when it works it has an incredible impact.
Ok. That's it for this issue. Next we'll continue to take up this thread and tell you more great ways to meet women, anytime, anywhere. Until then,
Peace and piece,
Ross
P.S. Want real success and power with the women of your choice, instead of the women you have to settle for? Your Speed Seduction® Home Study Course is waiting for you! Just go to
http://www.speedseduction.net/products/rj87.asp today!
This newsletter, and all of its contents are copyright Ross Jeffries. However this newsletter may be reprinted and re-used in any format, without prior consent, provided all content, including all links, are kept intact, proper credit for authorship is given, and the newsletter is given for free, without charge.
One of the most common questions I have gotten in my 11 years of teaching Speed Seduction® is: what are some good and easy ways to meet women?
Recently, someone sent me an email, where, among other things, he said, “I hate going to clubs and bars, and at 35 years old, I feel out of place in them anyway.”
Now, this is one of the most common questions I get. And it's good to see a guy up there in his 30's still pushing for what he really wants.
Personally, as a 45 year old geezer who is as close to ugly as you can get without getting your face banned by the FDA, I still go for and GET women in their mid 20's(occasionally I will pull a 21-22 year old) and I never set foot in clubs.
But clubs or not, there ARE master keys for a guy of any age, to be meeting women, anytime anywhere. And believe me, this skill IS important.
You see, so many guys who are fixated on one girl, convinced SHE is the woman of their dreams whom they must have would actually dump her in a heartbeat if they knew they could go out and meet 10 hot women that same day they were pining over their 'dream girl"(who probably isn't giving them any anyway).
Hey…I'm sorry if I seem flippant here. But the reality is, the skill of meeting women anytime, anywhere, is crucial to avoiding what I call..
Relationships By Default!
You see, it has long been a theory of mine that MOST men don’t really wind up with the woman they really want. For most men, "dating" is such a form of roll the dice/crap shoot/gambling that they usually wind up settling for the woman who accidentally was attracted to them instead of the woman or women they really want.
Does this sound familiar?
Hey-I'm sorry if this seems harsh to you, but I call 'em like I see 'em. (And wow, did this ever get me booed and even physically attacked when I used to spout it on talk shows way back in the early and mid 90's.
Anyway, enough rambling. What I'm about to introduce you to is light years ahead of anything else out there, primarily because IT DOES NOT RELY ON CANNED LINES.
Yes, lines can be useful. Yes, lines can work. And I'll even give you some that are actually quite good.
But the key to remember is, with any line, it is the ATTITUDE that will determine how well the line works.
The Incredible Power Of Attitudes And Approach Positions
Basically then, there are 4 different attitudes or "approach positions"
The first one I'd like to talk about is one of my very favorite, and I call it "the Blurt Out".
The Blurt Out pretty much is what it sounds like; you "blurt out" whatever is actually going through your mind when you first spot the lady who has your attention, without any "editing" on your part (Ok, here's an exception: if your first thought is, "Damn, I have to touch those breasts!" it's probably best NOT to blurt that out!!
What I like about the Blurt Out is that it is coming from a place of vulnerability and sincerity. It's almost like you are thinking out loud, so women tend to automatically react without suspicion and be much more open and friendly to your approach.
The Blurt Out also works because you are implying something about your confidence, without saying it. What you are implying is, "hey, I'm a sincere guy, with real guts. I'm telling you what I really think, and I'm putting my head on the chopping block and handing you the axe. Will you be a horrible person and a coward and chop my head off or will you be as cool as me and be open to talking?"
The Blurt Out tends to work best with women in motion; either women who are walking directly toward you or women with whom you are walking parallel/side to side.
Just as an example of the Blurt Out in action, I once met a very hot 24 year old Canadian chick. I was in a parking structure for a shopping mall. She was walking up the steps, as I was walking down.
As I passed her I blurted out exactly what I was thinking in that moment, which was, "Wow..you've got style to burn!" just as if I was thinking out loud. She turned around, walked back down the steps and SHE initiated the conversation and later invited me to go get a beer.
That's the key to this approach, again. Just blurt out whatever you are thinking when you see her. Even if your thoughts happen to be shy or fearful, express what you are thinking, as in, "I realized if I kept hesitating, I'd never get to meet you and I'd kick myself for a week. So I had to come up and say SOMETHING. I'm "Your Name Here"
Can you see how totally sincere and disarming this approach could be? Especially for very good looking women who keep having all sorts of bullshit thrown their way.
The Blurt Out Plus The Implied Compliment
With an implied compliment, you don't actually say that YOU think the woman in question is hot or stylish or beautiful. You just imply it by how you state it.
Here's an example: walking around an outdoor mall, I spotted a woman who just walked incredibly gracefully. So I walked beside her and said, "It's just that I really admire women who carry themselves with grace and power..so I had to say "Hi"."
See the implied compliment? I didn't say it directly, I implied it. I said I admired women with who carry themselves with grace and power. Since I was talking to her, that must mean I think that about her.
But HER mind had to fill in the blank and apply the compliment to herself. Since this was an ACTIVE process involving her own mind, it wasn't perceived as coming from an outsider, but rather something she herself thought. And so it goes in without resistance!
This is a sneaky way to communicate, but you'll learn a lot more about the power of implication to move the thoughts, imagination, and emotions of women in ways you can't yet dream possible!
Approach Position Two: Observation, Comment or Question
The second approach position or attitude is what I call the "observation, comment or question". You can combine these with a sense of humor or just do them straight up, and they work best in a setting where neither you or the woman is in motion, so you have some time to make your observation.
The biggest advantage with these is they are non-threatening and you don't have to rely on anything canned to fit the situation.
(By the way, when thinking of something to say, one of the key questions I'll ask myself is, "What can I notice, observe or intuit about this person that I can use to make a connection? A good way to send your mind in the right direction).
Observations, comments and questions of course depend on the situation ongoing, and I usually quickly follow them up with something funny, often a put-on(which is our third approach position or attitude, so we'll get there in a minute).
Real life example: I was in a gas station, filling up my car. The woman next to me was putting gas in her giant white Mercedes. I said, "How do you like your Mercedes?" (See..simple question!)
Her response, "I love it. How do you like your SAAB?"
Ok, she's answering back, so I know at least she's friendly. I said, "I like it."
Then I jumped right to a put-on, which is an easy thing to follow up any comment, observation or question.
I said, "It's too short."
She said, "What? The Mercedes. I think it's pretty long.
I said, "No, it's too short."
She said, "What is?"
I said,"Life…to hestitate…when you meet someone you think is incredibly attractive."
She smiled and said, "Thank you!"
I then playfully hit her on the shoulder and said, "I was talking about ME!"
This got MORE laughter and then names were exchanged, and shortly thereafter, phone numbers as well.
My point: observations, comments and questions can be followed up with almost anything and combined with almost anything.
A favorite question opener of mine actually combines a question with a compliment, as in, "Do you do a martial art? You carry yourself with discpline and elegance..it's a very rare and attractive trait."
By the way, when it comes to compliments to pick up women, I prefer to IMPLY them or combine them with a question and I prefer to strongly compliment a woman on how she moves or her "energy". For some reason these are lot more acceptable and less threatening and perceived as more sincere than direct comments
about her looks.
Approach Position 3: The Put-On
Now we come to my favorite "approach position" the put-on. The put-on is simply a humorous approach where you pretend something to get her attention. For example, if a woman is walking in my direction and is wearing a t-shirt with a logo or design, I will look confused, point at the shirt and say, "I don't get it".
Usually, the response is, "Don't get what?" To which I always say, "The shirt. What's it mean?"
At this point, I almost always get an explanation from her about the logo or symbol, to which my response is to pretend to disagree and argue in the most ridiculous way.
Example: sitting in a yogurt shop, a young lady with very large breasts walked in. She was wearing a tight t-shirt with a slogan that said, "Free the Afghans"!.
I pretended that I thought the shirt was about Afghan DOGS. You know..the shaggy haired, long-legged dogs you sometimes see accompanying models in photo shoots?
I said, "who is holding a bunch of dogs captive? Why do you want to free them? Do you want more dogs to be strays?"
She tried explaining, and I kept misunderstanding. Then I made a joke about being so good looking I didn't need to be smart. Then I introduced myself.
If you want a good idea of the overall attitude for this approach, think of Bugs Bunny. Or Groucho Marx. Or Leslie Nielsen from the "Police Squad" movies.
One more example of a put-on approach. I was sitting in a local café and seated behind me was a very attractive young Asian woman. I observed that she was thinking very hard, talking to herself, trying to figure out her economics book.
So I turned to her and said, as seriously as could, "Could I ask you not to think too loud? You look like a loud thinker, and I have very important writing to do."
My friend, who was sitting across from me said she couldn't stop looking at me after that and could not go back to studying! I turned to her a minute later and said, "Look…I asked you nicely not to think so loud! Don't make me call the management!"
At that point, SHE began a conversation.
There are many, many ways to enjoy a put on. And you can combine it with an observation as in this last example; my observation about this girl was that she really was, "thinking loud"-she was having trouble trying to figure out what she was reading and so she WAS talking to herself, internally, in her head, which is a way of "thinking loud".
Approach Position #4: Genuine Intuition
The final approach position is what I would call a genuine intuition. This is more rare and harder to do. But did you ever find yourself just looking at someone and you just KNEW that person? Like something deep inside you connected with something deep inside them and you just KNEW them?
In this case, when this happens, go with your intuition and tell them what you observe. It's close to an observation, but the difference with this position is, it really isn't something you could pick up with your physical 5 senses.
This is advanced stuff that will come in time, so I wouldn't worry about it for now. But as an example, I was once sitting in my favorite coffee place. As this beautiful blonde woman walked in the door, I saw an image of her on stage, singing. So as she walked by I just said, "How long have you been a singer?"
It totally blew her away. And a long conversation followed. So if you have a strong intuition, just run with it and give it a shot. It's a bit risky, but when it works it has an incredible impact.
Ok. That's it for this issue. Next we'll continue to take up this thread and tell you more great ways to meet women, anytime, anywhere. Until then,
Peace and piece,
Ross
P.S. Want real success and power with the women of your choice, instead of the women you have to settle for? Your Speed Seduction® Home Study Course is waiting for you! Just go to
http://www.speedseduction.net/products/rj87.asp today!
This newsletter, and all of its contents are copyright Ross Jeffries. However this newsletter may be reprinted and re-used in any format, without prior consent, provided all content, including all links, are kept intact, proper credit for authorship is given, and the newsletter is given for free, without charge.
Tuesday, August 10, 2010
Assertiveness Part 4
HOW TO BE ASSERTIVE IN SPECIFIC SITUATIONS
Being assertive can assist you to overcome awkward situations. Here are a few examples that can assist you to:
SAY "NO"
If you do not want to do something, you do not have to do it! Refusing does not mean you are selfish!
Do not feel compelled to give a reason.
Feel free to strike a compromise. "I can not organize your tag sale and I would be happy to donate some items."
EXPRESS YOUR ANGER
There is nothing wrong with feeling anger; it is the way it is expressed that can hurt people.
Do say something. The other person can not read your mind -- and do not count on sulking to get your message across.
Discuss the issue (and that issue only).
Stay calm
Avoid name-calling
Discuss solutions. Compromise.
"I am irritated that you are continually late. Is there some reason why you can not get here on time? Maybe we can change your schedule." NOT "I am sick and tired of this, you lazy bum!"
ASK FOR ASSISTANCE
Asking for assistance is natural and everybody can use it once in a while.
Make your request direct, clear and specific.
Give the person time to choose if he or she wants to do it.
Make sure the person understands that it is OK to say "No." "I have got to move before the end of the month. Could you lend a hand between the 28th and 30th?"
GIVE AND RECIEVE COMPLIMENTS
If receiving praise is tough for you, then just give a smile, a simple "thank you" or a hug, depending on the situation.
Do not insult the person giving the compliment by saying "Oh, is was nothing" simply say "You are welcome or thank you."
If you truly feel the compliment is underserved, acknowledge that, and still thank the person. "I was a bit disappointed myself and I am glad you liked it. Thanks for the support.
When giving praise, be sincere and specific.
PRACTICE YOUR ASSERTIVENESS SKILLS
Becoming assertive takes time and practice. Here is a plan that may assist.
1. SELECT A SITUATION in which you would like to be assertive. "I would like to tell my friends that I do not want to go out with them every Friday night."
2. OBSERVE HOW OTHERS ACT in the same situation. "Dibbie makes excuses. It works, and some people doubt her truthfulness. Tom simply says, "No, thank you. I would rather not.
3.REHEARSE THE SCENE by planning what you will say, how you will make your point. Practice in front of the mirror to be sure you look and act confident as well.
4. GO DO IT AND SEE WHAT HAPPENS "I do not want to go our tonight. I would just like to stay home and relax."
5. EVALUATE WHAT YOU HAVE DONE and be critical and do not be too hard on yourself. "I could improve my eye contact. I was direct, I did not make excuses and it worked."
6. DO IT AGAIN .. You can do it!
YOU CAN BECOME ASSERTIVE AS NEVER BEFORE
SAY what is on your mind.
EXPRESS yourself directly, honestly and appropriately
RESPECT you own rights and the rights of others
Being assertive will make a difference in your life ... A DIFFERENCE YOU WILL ENJOY
Being assertive can assist you to overcome awkward situations. Here are a few examples that can assist you to:
SAY "NO"
If you do not want to do something, you do not have to do it! Refusing does not mean you are selfish!
Do not feel compelled to give a reason.
Feel free to strike a compromise. "I can not organize your tag sale and I would be happy to donate some items."
EXPRESS YOUR ANGER
There is nothing wrong with feeling anger; it is the way it is expressed that can hurt people.
Do say something. The other person can not read your mind -- and do not count on sulking to get your message across.
Discuss the issue (and that issue only).
Stay calm
Avoid name-calling
Discuss solutions. Compromise.
"I am irritated that you are continually late. Is there some reason why you can not get here on time? Maybe we can change your schedule." NOT "I am sick and tired of this, you lazy bum!"
ASK FOR ASSISTANCE
Asking for assistance is natural and everybody can use it once in a while.
Make your request direct, clear and specific.
Give the person time to choose if he or she wants to do it.
Make sure the person understands that it is OK to say "No." "I have got to move before the end of the month. Could you lend a hand between the 28th and 30th?"
GIVE AND RECIEVE COMPLIMENTS
If receiving praise is tough for you, then just give a smile, a simple "thank you" or a hug, depending on the situation.
Do not insult the person giving the compliment by saying "Oh, is was nothing" simply say "You are welcome or thank you."
If you truly feel the compliment is underserved, acknowledge that, and still thank the person. "I was a bit disappointed myself and I am glad you liked it. Thanks for the support.
When giving praise, be sincere and specific.
PRACTICE YOUR ASSERTIVENESS SKILLS
Becoming assertive takes time and practice. Here is a plan that may assist.
1. SELECT A SITUATION in which you would like to be assertive. "I would like to tell my friends that I do not want to go out with them every Friday night."
2. OBSERVE HOW OTHERS ACT in the same situation. "Dibbie makes excuses. It works, and some people doubt her truthfulness. Tom simply says, "No, thank you. I would rather not.
3.REHEARSE THE SCENE by planning what you will say, how you will make your point. Practice in front of the mirror to be sure you look and act confident as well.
4. GO DO IT AND SEE WHAT HAPPENS "I do not want to go our tonight. I would just like to stay home and relax."
5. EVALUATE WHAT YOU HAVE DONE and be critical and do not be too hard on yourself. "I could improve my eye contact. I was direct, I did not make excuses and it worked."
6. DO IT AGAIN .. You can do it!
YOU CAN BECOME ASSERTIVE AS NEVER BEFORE
SAY what is on your mind.
EXPRESS yourself directly, honestly and appropriately
RESPECT you own rights and the rights of others
Being assertive will make a difference in your life ... A DIFFERENCE YOU WILL ENJOY
Tuesday, March 16, 2010
Attraction Secrets Of The TRUE Alpha Male
Dear Speed Seduction® Student,
Recently, I got asked the following question, which has been coming up more and more lately:
"What's all this stuff about being a "cocky/funny" "Alpha" male? Is it true that "busting" on a woman and being "Alpha" is what it really takes to get the kind of hot women most men really want?"
You know, it's kind of flattering when I get these kind of questions. It shows that the huge numbers of Ross Jeffries impersonators and imitators are still falling flat on their faces trying to eat my dust in the "Get Girls" advice game.
Look: there is nothing wrong, per se, with being "cocky and funny". Hell,. I even gave advice on exactly how to do this way back in 1988 when I wrote my original book, "How To Get The Women You Desire Into Bed".
But cocky and funny, by itself, is not going to get you laid, unless you happen to already be so good looking that she gets a tingle in her clit just by looking at you.
What cocky and funny can do is get you past her initial, "Is this just another loser guy?" screening tests. It will get her attention, and hold it..for a little while. It will get you past her first set of screens and keep you in here…for a little while.
The Problem With Always "Busting" On Women!
The problem is, "busting" a girl like this eventually has to turn into something better and deeper or she is going to get bored, insulted and blow you off, unless as I said before, you happen to be so good looking you make her wet just by standing their.
Really, you need to take the advice you get from some of these "cocky funny" and "alpha male" dudes with a huge grain of salt. Can you really get women just by doing what a great looking guy does to get them?
Could you win a fist fight in a bar by doing what a guy who is 6 foot 10 and 350 lbs of solid muscle does to win a fight-just make sure you throw the first punch and then jump on the guy?
So, cocky and funny will get attention and get you in the door. But then, as I keep saying, you need to be able to lead the conversation into the topics and themes that are most likely to trigger her deep and intense feeling "recipes" so you can STICK YOUR DOUGH IN HER OVEN and BAKE YOUR COOKIES, good buddy!
Now, as for this alpha male crap-holy friggin' frijoles.
The stuff I read about this from my "rival" Gurus really makes me want to tear out my hair and scream.
First of all, these guys are postulating some kind of evolutionary biological mechanism in a woman's mind that somehow makes her ready for mating if you just act tough and push her around, and constantly show her who is the boss.
Aside from the fact that there is, in fact, no scientific evidence at all for such theories (and in fact, studies of our closest genetic relatives, the pygmy chimp or bonobos show the opposite-that it is the males who are co-operative and stick around to help with the infants that actually get laid the most!) it misses a larger point.
It is NOT that women like "Alphas", however badly defined that may be.
****************************************************************
SPECIAL NOTICE: To see a free video clip of me discussing the "nice guy/alpha guy" problem, just go right now to:
http://www.speedseduction.net/audvid/nomorefear.mov
***************************************************************
The reality is that humans, male and female, like and respond to LEADERSHIP. And LEADERSHIP has little or nothing to do with the silly, teenage, juvenile posturing and high school games these "Double Your Masturbating" guys are teaching you.
Now LEADERSHIP isn't just about being bossy or pushing people around. LEADERSHIP is about having a twin set of skills, a set of skills that both balance and compliment each other.
Those are the skills of being able to strongly guide and set the direction and also being able to listen and gather information.
The problem with always being "Alpha" as defined by wanna-be Ross Jeffries imitators, is that it requires you never co-operate, never relax or loosen up, and most importantly never listen to or gather information about the woman you desire.
In the mind of these buffoons(and I'm being charitable with the name calling here-these guys should be seriously horse-whipped) asking questions and gathering information about a woman is viewed as trying to "prove" or "qualify" yourself and makes you look like a pussy.
In fact, listening to a woman while you set a strong direction and remain in the lead is an IDEAL combination for rapidly appearing to her as very attractive.
Nice Guy Vs. Jerk-A Totally False Choice To Screw Up Your Mind
The problem is, we guys are given a false choice between two bad extremes:
1. Be the "nice guy". The problem with nice guys is, they
not only listen to a woman to find out where she is at, they actually wind up GOING THERE THEMSELVES, totally losing themselves in her emotions, desires and wants. They let her reality over take and rule their own! YUCCH!
2. Be the "jerk". Now, jerks have no problem holding a strong desire and intent. The problem is, they don't' care at all about a woman's reality so they never even bother really find out who she is, what would really deeply please her and so they wind up having to constantly recruit new women to sucker in! Again, YUCCH!
Leadership: The True Skill And Challenge!
The true skill set is being able to keep your own desire and intent strong, while at the same time recognizing, listening to, and gathering information about the other person. THIS ability is a core, key skill to not only being truly "Alpha" with women, but to being a leader in life in general, not just with women, but with men as well.
And this ability is part of what gives women that positive "vibe" that makes them drawn to you.
Another aspect of being truly "Alpha", in terms of being a leader, is the ability to look at what you are doing in your
behavior and thinking with both ruthless clarity and total and complete compassion and non-blaming.
You see, most people won't even look at their mistakes, for fear they can't correct them or for fear that they will hate themselves and beat themselves up over them.
And the few who will look at their mistakes usually get so depressed or angry about it, they fail to really ever correct them.
So I'm here to tell you that this very rare form of believing in yourself-the ability to embrace your mistakes and quickly learn from them without attaching pain, blame or self-hate puts you ahead of 99.9999% of the population on this planet.
And it is exactly THIS kind of super-rare real "confidence"-the confidence to move ahead and keep improving yourself and trying new things- that will make you massively attractive to women in a way that they won't be able to "put their finger" on.
Remember, unlike us guys, women pick up on "VIBES". This "vibe" of true Alpha will get them so hot and horny, they won't understand why they are wetting themselves around you. And you'll never have to put them down, act like a moron, or "bust" on them like a High School boy who's got a crush on some girl in study hall.
This is the real, dignified confidence of a TRUE LEADER, a
man.
True, Deep-Level Self-Control: Catnip To Women!
The final aspect of a being alpha is being able to gain control over your beliefs, intent, awareness and design for yourself the kind of person you would like to be. This requires not just the use of will, but also of imagination and envisioning yourself and your future. Again something that requires discernment, discipline and direction.
Are you really going to get this from grown men who are
still advising you act like a High School boy, "busting" on that cute girl in study hall?
I really don't think so.
Becoming a TRUE leader, a real "Alpha" may be a bit more complex and require more discernment, direction and depth on your part. But it's THE way to attract and enjoy women you can like, love and respect. Something the "Alpha/Pick Up" "gurus" haven't got a clue about and could never, ever teach about or tell you.
Think about it….
Til next issue,
Piece and Peace,
Ross
P.S. By now, you ought to realize, for all your own reasons, you WANT a Speed Seduction(R) Home Study Course! Just go to:
http://www.speedseduction.net/products/rj87.asp
This newsletter, and all of its contents are copyright Ross Jeffries. However this newsletter may be reprinted and re-used in any format, without prior consent, provided all content, including all links, are kept intact, proper credit for authorship is given, and the newsletter is given for free, without charge.
Recently, I got asked the following question, which has been coming up more and more lately:
"What's all this stuff about being a "cocky/funny" "Alpha" male? Is it true that "busting" on a woman and being "Alpha" is what it really takes to get the kind of hot women most men really want?"
You know, it's kind of flattering when I get these kind of questions. It shows that the huge numbers of Ross Jeffries impersonators and imitators are still falling flat on their faces trying to eat my dust in the "Get Girls" advice game.
Look: there is nothing wrong, per se, with being "cocky and funny". Hell,. I even gave advice on exactly how to do this way back in 1988 when I wrote my original book, "How To Get The Women You Desire Into Bed".
But cocky and funny, by itself, is not going to get you laid, unless you happen to already be so good looking that she gets a tingle in her clit just by looking at you.
What cocky and funny can do is get you past her initial, "Is this just another loser guy?" screening tests. It will get her attention, and hold it..for a little while. It will get you past her first set of screens and keep you in here…for a little while.
The Problem With Always "Busting" On Women!
The problem is, "busting" a girl like this eventually has to turn into something better and deeper or she is going to get bored, insulted and blow you off, unless as I said before, you happen to be so good looking you make her wet just by standing their.
Really, you need to take the advice you get from some of these "cocky funny" and "alpha male" dudes with a huge grain of salt. Can you really get women just by doing what a great looking guy does to get them?
Could you win a fist fight in a bar by doing what a guy who is 6 foot 10 and 350 lbs of solid muscle does to win a fight-just make sure you throw the first punch and then jump on the guy?
So, cocky and funny will get attention and get you in the door. But then, as I keep saying, you need to be able to lead the conversation into the topics and themes that are most likely to trigger her deep and intense feeling "recipes" so you can STICK YOUR DOUGH IN HER OVEN and BAKE YOUR COOKIES, good buddy!
Now, as for this alpha male crap-holy friggin' frijoles.
The stuff I read about this from my "rival" Gurus really makes me want to tear out my hair and scream.
First of all, these guys are postulating some kind of evolutionary biological mechanism in a woman's mind that somehow makes her ready for mating if you just act tough and push her around, and constantly show her who is the boss.
Aside from the fact that there is, in fact, no scientific evidence at all for such theories (and in fact, studies of our closest genetic relatives, the pygmy chimp or bonobos show the opposite-that it is the males who are co-operative and stick around to help with the infants that actually get laid the most!) it misses a larger point.
It is NOT that women like "Alphas", however badly defined that may be.
****************************************************************
SPECIAL NOTICE: To see a free video clip of me discussing the "nice guy/alpha guy" problem, just go right now to:
http://www.speedseduction.net/audvid/nomorefear.mov
***************************************************************
The reality is that humans, male and female, like and respond to LEADERSHIP. And LEADERSHIP has little or nothing to do with the silly, teenage, juvenile posturing and high school games these "Double Your Masturbating" guys are teaching you.
Now LEADERSHIP isn't just about being bossy or pushing people around. LEADERSHIP is about having a twin set of skills, a set of skills that both balance and compliment each other.
Those are the skills of being able to strongly guide and set the direction and also being able to listen and gather information.
The problem with always being "Alpha" as defined by wanna-be Ross Jeffries imitators, is that it requires you never co-operate, never relax or loosen up, and most importantly never listen to or gather information about the woman you desire.
In the mind of these buffoons(and I'm being charitable with the name calling here-these guys should be seriously horse-whipped) asking questions and gathering information about a woman is viewed as trying to "prove" or "qualify" yourself and makes you look like a pussy.
In fact, listening to a woman while you set a strong direction and remain in the lead is an IDEAL combination for rapidly appearing to her as very attractive.
Nice Guy Vs. Jerk-A Totally False Choice To Screw Up Your Mind
The problem is, we guys are given a false choice between two bad extremes:
1. Be the "nice guy". The problem with nice guys is, they
not only listen to a woman to find out where she is at, they actually wind up GOING THERE THEMSELVES, totally losing themselves in her emotions, desires and wants. They let her reality over take and rule their own! YUCCH!
2. Be the "jerk". Now, jerks have no problem holding a strong desire and intent. The problem is, they don't' care at all about a woman's reality so they never even bother really find out who she is, what would really deeply please her and so they wind up having to constantly recruit new women to sucker in! Again, YUCCH!
Leadership: The True Skill And Challenge!
The true skill set is being able to keep your own desire and intent strong, while at the same time recognizing, listening to, and gathering information about the other person. THIS ability is a core, key skill to not only being truly "Alpha" with women, but to being a leader in life in general, not just with women, but with men as well.
And this ability is part of what gives women that positive "vibe" that makes them drawn to you.
Another aspect of being truly "Alpha", in terms of being a leader, is the ability to look at what you are doing in your
behavior and thinking with both ruthless clarity and total and complete compassion and non-blaming.
You see, most people won't even look at their mistakes, for fear they can't correct them or for fear that they will hate themselves and beat themselves up over them.
And the few who will look at their mistakes usually get so depressed or angry about it, they fail to really ever correct them.
So I'm here to tell you that this very rare form of believing in yourself-the ability to embrace your mistakes and quickly learn from them without attaching pain, blame or self-hate puts you ahead of 99.9999% of the population on this planet.
And it is exactly THIS kind of super-rare real "confidence"-the confidence to move ahead and keep improving yourself and trying new things- that will make you massively attractive to women in a way that they won't be able to "put their finger" on.
Remember, unlike us guys, women pick up on "VIBES". This "vibe" of true Alpha will get them so hot and horny, they won't understand why they are wetting themselves around you. And you'll never have to put them down, act like a moron, or "bust" on them like a High School boy who's got a crush on some girl in study hall.
This is the real, dignified confidence of a TRUE LEADER, a
man.
True, Deep-Level Self-Control: Catnip To Women!
The final aspect of a being alpha is being able to gain control over your beliefs, intent, awareness and design for yourself the kind of person you would like to be. This requires not just the use of will, but also of imagination and envisioning yourself and your future. Again something that requires discernment, discipline and direction.
Are you really going to get this from grown men who are
still advising you act like a High School boy, "busting" on that cute girl in study hall?
I really don't think so.
Becoming a TRUE leader, a real "Alpha" may be a bit more complex and require more discernment, direction and depth on your part. But it's THE way to attract and enjoy women you can like, love and respect. Something the "Alpha/Pick Up" "gurus" haven't got a clue about and could never, ever teach about or tell you.
Think about it….
Til next issue,
Piece and Peace,
Ross
P.S. By now, you ought to realize, for all your own reasons, you WANT a Speed Seduction(R) Home Study Course! Just go to:
http://www.speedseduction.net/products/rj87.asp
This newsletter, and all of its contents are copyright Ross Jeffries. However this newsletter may be reprinted and re-used in any format, without prior consent, provided all content, including all links, are kept intact, proper credit for authorship is given, and the newsletter is given for free, without charge.
Friday, March 12, 2010
How To Transform Your Self-Image With Women!
Dear Speed Seduction® Student,
Last issue, we talked a bit about how to interrupt and overcome the response of being fearful or shy or hesitant around women.
In this issue, we will continue with this thread. I want to start you on the process of doing a lot more than overcoming being "shy". I want to start you on the process of programming your subconscious mind for outrageous confidence, power and charm!
This is a subject about which I actually have some trouble writing, simply because I've evolved and created so many techniques that have helped so many thousands of guys, it's hard for me to know where to begin!
Does it seem like I'm bragging? Well, as they say in Missouri, it ain't bragging if..
....You Really Can Do What You Say You Can!
Alrighty then. There is a fundamental principle of the human mind I want you to really understand and incorporate and it explains why some people really can change their lives while other just stay hoping, wishing and stuck. It is a rule about how the human brain and mind work that controls a great deal of what we can do. And here it is:
While Your Brain May Be Attracted To Doing Something Different, Usually Brains Only DO What Is Familiar
Basically what I am saying here is, people tend to do what they are used to. People tend to think like they are used to thinking and feel like they are used to feeling.
Yes, they may WANT to, on some level, change.
But the reality is, given a situation in the real world, if you are used to acting, feeling and thinking in a certain way, just vaguely wishing you could be different ISN'T GOING TO CHANGE ANYTHING AT ALL.
The key to any kind of real change, then, is mental rehearsal. You must learn to program in the way you like to feel, act, think, believe and respond and do so with sufficient repetition that the new feelings, actions, thoughts and beliefs are perceived by your brain as being more powerful, more vivid, more real and more familiar…
Than The Way You Used To Be!
I will say this again, because it is so imporant. It is NOT enough to realize you want to change. It is not enough to even THINK about changing. If you want a change, especially a change that is radically different, you must…
Vividly Mentally Rehearse It!
Now, I am not the first person to talk about mental rehearsal or it's dirty little new age cousin, "guided visualization". The problem with most of these methods, as presented is,
They Simply Do Not Work!
That's not because the people who teach or write about them don't care. It's simply because they are either leaving out vital ingredients to "make the recipe work" or because they are adding in stupid stuff that just doesn't belong.
So let me give you some vital keys to make mental rehearsal work for you, so in a matter of a few short weeks you can totally reprogram the deepest levels of your mind for the kind of beliefs, attitudes, awareness, behaviors and timing to bring you outrageously magnetic confidence and power with women.
Key #1: The role of breath. As I pointed out last issue, breathing is of vital importance for making any deep level change.
We could get into all sorts of meta-physical explanations but let's keep it scientific for a while at least. The scientific fact is that if you have a prolonged fear or anxiety response, eventually the limbic part of your brain that controls the flight/fight response gets progressively triggered by the smallest inputs, like a car alarm that goes off when a cat walks by.
Unless you interrupt this limbic over-drive, any programming you try to do with the other levels of the brain and mind are going to get sabotaged and disrupted, so change will take much more "will power" and fighting yourself.
We want to do things the easy way.
So the first step in doing your mental rehearsal for power with women will be to take ten minutes to do your breathing as taught in the previous newsletter. And if you aren't willing to take ten minutes for yourself to succeed with women…
Pack It In Now Buckwheat And Make Some More Room On The Planet!
Key #2: Understanding and using the two kinds of visualization.
Alright, this is not that hard to understand, but it is a key reason why most visualization and guided imagery is usually an exercise in mere mental whacking off. If visualizing and mental rehearsal has never before worked for you, this is why, and now I promise it will.
(By the way, if you are one of those people who thinks "I can't visualize at all" I have ways to fix that too, but it's beyond the scope of this newsletter. You can contact me privately: sandworm77@comcast.net).
Anyway, there is the kind of visualization where you see yourself in the images. It's like watching a home movie of yourself, so you see your image of what you are doing or experiencing, how you are acting, etc.
This image which is useful for motivation and setting an overall direction for your mind is called disassociated. It means you are watching your self go through an experience, but you are not actually in the image so you don't feel very much, if anything, of the feelings of being there.
The Power Of Associated Imagery
The second kind of visualizing is where you do not see yourself in the images, but you see what you would actually see if you stepped into the image and were really there, looking out through your own eyes. We call this associated imagery, and this kind of imagery is what is most useful for fully rehearsing new behaviors, responses, emotions and thoughts.
The key to proper mental rehearsal that really works is to first use a dissociated set of images; seeing yourself the way you would like to look, talk, and act and then to switch to associated images, stepping inside the pictures and actually moving, talking, thinking, and feeling the way you'll move, talk, think and feel when you are actually in the real situation.
Does this make sense?
First seeing the disassociated images of the way you want to be sets a guide post and a direction for your brain, so it gets an overall idea.
Then, seeing the associated images and actually walking around making the actual physical movements, talking out loud the way you'd speak, doing what you'd be actually doing FILLS IN THE DETAILS FOR YOUR BRAIN.
An Example Of A Mental Programming Session For Confidence And Power With Women The Two Kinds Of Visualizing…Plus A Special "Boost"!
Before I give you this practice, remember that the process of re-programming your subconscious mind for success with women is just that, a process. That means it takes some repetition and practice for the new thoughts, attitudes, behaviors and feelings to take root and take hold.
So you should practice this once a day for 2-3 weeks before you expect to see any results, though some people see results immediately
Ok then…
Pick a situation-a specific context-where you'd like to have more power and confidence with women.
Let's say it is in the initial approach or walk up.
The first thing I want you to do is sit comfortably on the flow and energize yourself with some of the breathing exercises (a key to making this work) that I've discussed before or breathing exercises you find in any good book on yoga or meditation.
The next thing I want you to do is mentally create a place in your mind where you believe anything is possible.
To do this, begin counting backward in your mind as follows:
Visualize the number 3. See it 3 times, as in 3, 3, 3. Then see the number 2 and visualize it 3 times as in 2, 2, 2. Finally, see the number 1, three times as in 1, 1, 1. Mentally say each number as you see it in your mind.
Now, stand up. Imagine in front of you, a circle, on the ground. Use your actual physical arm and make the motion of drawing the circle on the ground.
Look at the circle and thing of it as a place where ANYTHING can be made possible. Where anything can be made real. Where anything can be created. Then step into it.
Ok. Now, imagine that situation where you want to be more confident and powerful with women. See the image of how you would look when you are that confident. See yourself acting, talking, standing, moving and feeling as you would like to.
This is your disassociated image.
Using Your Associated Imagery
Now, take a step forward and imagine you are actually stepping into the image so you are walking, breathing, talking from that place. See what you would actually see from you own eyes if you were there. Feel what you would feel.
Now, for an extra boost of confidence, step outside yourself and step into the woman you are meeting. Imagine you are looking at yourself through her eyes, feeling how excited she feels to meet you, hearing her voice in her head saying, "Wow..this guy is hot."
Finally step back out of her and see your confident,
powerful self again, disassociated. Mentally give yourself a command that this self will be there for you, with all the qualities, behaviors, insights, attitudes and timing you need for total success with women.
Key #3 The Power Of Letting It Go
Once you've done your mental rehearsal and visualization for the day, you must dismiss it from you mind and LET IT GO.
Too often, we are taught that to get something we really want or a change we really want in ourselves, we have to constantly think about it, keeping our "goal" in the front of our mind.
In fact, this over-motivation is a load of crap that just keeps people stuck.
You have to find the proper level of motivation to create change, and that involves knowing when to just dismiss it from your mind and let it go.
It's sort of like baking cookies in an oven (here we go with baking analogies again; first it was recipes, now it's cookies!). If you put the dough in the oven but keep opening the oven door every 30 seconds to check if the cookies are done, they will never get finished!
In fact, this constant thinking if you are progressing or not or if it is working is just another form of doubt. You see, "hope" and "doubt" are really the same thing. They both involve uncertainty.
Once you've done your mental rehearsal, you need to let it go. Just release it, relax and know it will be there for you in the real world.
Ok. I think I've already over-loaded you a bit. Next issue, I will take you through an actual, structured, guided-visualization/mental rehearsal that you can learn to do on a daily basis to super-charge your confidence, power and success with women.
Til then,
Peace and Piece,
Ross
P.S. No matter where you may be with your success with women, you can always break through and make huge leaps and jumps. I've seen it with my students, time and again.
To watch a student make his breakthrough, just go here:
http://www.speedseduction.net/products/rj180.asp
Remember, where ever you have been with women, up to now, is has been based on what you were taught, what you knew how to do, up until now, with the tools you had at your disposal.
Given new tools, new ways of operating, new ways of thinking, you can and WILL do better, much better. I've seen it with students, THOUSANDS of times. So jump on over to http://www.speedseduction.net/products/rj87.asp
and get your Home Study Course right now!
This newsletter, and all of its contents are copyright Ross Jeffries. However this newsletter may be reprinted and re-used in any format, without prior consent, provided all content, including all links, are kept intact, proper credit for authorship is given, and the newsletter is given for free, without charge.
Last issue, we talked a bit about how to interrupt and overcome the response of being fearful or shy or hesitant around women.
In this issue, we will continue with this thread. I want to start you on the process of doing a lot more than overcoming being "shy". I want to start you on the process of programming your subconscious mind for outrageous confidence, power and charm!
This is a subject about which I actually have some trouble writing, simply because I've evolved and created so many techniques that have helped so many thousands of guys, it's hard for me to know where to begin!
Does it seem like I'm bragging? Well, as they say in Missouri, it ain't bragging if..
....You Really Can Do What You Say You Can!
Alrighty then. There is a fundamental principle of the human mind I want you to really understand and incorporate and it explains why some people really can change their lives while other just stay hoping, wishing and stuck. It is a rule about how the human brain and mind work that controls a great deal of what we can do. And here it is:
While Your Brain May Be Attracted To Doing Something Different, Usually Brains Only DO What Is Familiar
Basically what I am saying here is, people tend to do what they are used to. People tend to think like they are used to thinking and feel like they are used to feeling.
Yes, they may WANT to, on some level, change.
But the reality is, given a situation in the real world, if you are used to acting, feeling and thinking in a certain way, just vaguely wishing you could be different ISN'T GOING TO CHANGE ANYTHING AT ALL.
The key to any kind of real change, then, is mental rehearsal. You must learn to program in the way you like to feel, act, think, believe and respond and do so with sufficient repetition that the new feelings, actions, thoughts and beliefs are perceived by your brain as being more powerful, more vivid, more real and more familiar…
Than The Way You Used To Be!
I will say this again, because it is so imporant. It is NOT enough to realize you want to change. It is not enough to even THINK about changing. If you want a change, especially a change that is radically different, you must…
Vividly Mentally Rehearse It!
Now, I am not the first person to talk about mental rehearsal or it's dirty little new age cousin, "guided visualization". The problem with most of these methods, as presented is,
They Simply Do Not Work!
That's not because the people who teach or write about them don't care. It's simply because they are either leaving out vital ingredients to "make the recipe work" or because they are adding in stupid stuff that just doesn't belong.
So let me give you some vital keys to make mental rehearsal work for you, so in a matter of a few short weeks you can totally reprogram the deepest levels of your mind for the kind of beliefs, attitudes, awareness, behaviors and timing to bring you outrageously magnetic confidence and power with women.
Key #1: The role of breath. As I pointed out last issue, breathing is of vital importance for making any deep level change.
We could get into all sorts of meta-physical explanations but let's keep it scientific for a while at least. The scientific fact is that if you have a prolonged fear or anxiety response, eventually the limbic part of your brain that controls the flight/fight response gets progressively triggered by the smallest inputs, like a car alarm that goes off when a cat walks by.
Unless you interrupt this limbic over-drive, any programming you try to do with the other levels of the brain and mind are going to get sabotaged and disrupted, so change will take much more "will power" and fighting yourself.
We want to do things the easy way.
So the first step in doing your mental rehearsal for power with women will be to take ten minutes to do your breathing as taught in the previous newsletter. And if you aren't willing to take ten minutes for yourself to succeed with women…
Pack It In Now Buckwheat And Make Some More Room On The Planet!
Key #2: Understanding and using the two kinds of visualization.
Alright, this is not that hard to understand, but it is a key reason why most visualization and guided imagery is usually an exercise in mere mental whacking off. If visualizing and mental rehearsal has never before worked for you, this is why, and now I promise it will.
(By the way, if you are one of those people who thinks "I can't visualize at all" I have ways to fix that too, but it's beyond the scope of this newsletter. You can contact me privately: sandworm77@comcast.net).
Anyway, there is the kind of visualization where you see yourself in the images. It's like watching a home movie of yourself, so you see your image of what you are doing or experiencing, how you are acting, etc.
This image which is useful for motivation and setting an overall direction for your mind is called disassociated. It means you are watching your self go through an experience, but you are not actually in the image so you don't feel very much, if anything, of the feelings of being there.
The Power Of Associated Imagery
The second kind of visualizing is where you do not see yourself in the images, but you see what you would actually see if you stepped into the image and were really there, looking out through your own eyes. We call this associated imagery, and this kind of imagery is what is most useful for fully rehearsing new behaviors, responses, emotions and thoughts.
The key to proper mental rehearsal that really works is to first use a dissociated set of images; seeing yourself the way you would like to look, talk, and act and then to switch to associated images, stepping inside the pictures and actually moving, talking, thinking, and feeling the way you'll move, talk, think and feel when you are actually in the real situation.
Does this make sense?
First seeing the disassociated images of the way you want to be sets a guide post and a direction for your brain, so it gets an overall idea.
Then, seeing the associated images and actually walking around making the actual physical movements, talking out loud the way you'd speak, doing what you'd be actually doing FILLS IN THE DETAILS FOR YOUR BRAIN.
An Example Of A Mental Programming Session For Confidence And Power With Women The Two Kinds Of Visualizing…Plus A Special "Boost"!
Before I give you this practice, remember that the process of re-programming your subconscious mind for success with women is just that, a process. That means it takes some repetition and practice for the new thoughts, attitudes, behaviors and feelings to take root and take hold.
So you should practice this once a day for 2-3 weeks before you expect to see any results, though some people see results immediately
Ok then…
Pick a situation-a specific context-where you'd like to have more power and confidence with women.
Let's say it is in the initial approach or walk up.
The first thing I want you to do is sit comfortably on the flow and energize yourself with some of the breathing exercises (a key to making this work) that I've discussed before or breathing exercises you find in any good book on yoga or meditation.
The next thing I want you to do is mentally create a place in your mind where you believe anything is possible.
To do this, begin counting backward in your mind as follows:
Visualize the number 3. See it 3 times, as in 3, 3, 3. Then see the number 2 and visualize it 3 times as in 2, 2, 2. Finally, see the number 1, three times as in 1, 1, 1. Mentally say each number as you see it in your mind.
Now, stand up. Imagine in front of you, a circle, on the ground. Use your actual physical arm and make the motion of drawing the circle on the ground.
Look at the circle and thing of it as a place where ANYTHING can be made possible. Where anything can be made real. Where anything can be created. Then step into it.
Ok. Now, imagine that situation where you want to be more confident and powerful with women. See the image of how you would look when you are that confident. See yourself acting, talking, standing, moving and feeling as you would like to.
This is your disassociated image.
Using Your Associated Imagery
Now, take a step forward and imagine you are actually stepping into the image so you are walking, breathing, talking from that place. See what you would actually see from you own eyes if you were there. Feel what you would feel.
Now, for an extra boost of confidence, step outside yourself and step into the woman you are meeting. Imagine you are looking at yourself through her eyes, feeling how excited she feels to meet you, hearing her voice in her head saying, "Wow..this guy is hot."
Finally step back out of her and see your confident,
powerful self again, disassociated. Mentally give yourself a command that this self will be there for you, with all the qualities, behaviors, insights, attitudes and timing you need for total success with women.
Key #3 The Power Of Letting It Go
Once you've done your mental rehearsal and visualization for the day, you must dismiss it from you mind and LET IT GO.
Too often, we are taught that to get something we really want or a change we really want in ourselves, we have to constantly think about it, keeping our "goal" in the front of our mind.
In fact, this over-motivation is a load of crap that just keeps people stuck.
You have to find the proper level of motivation to create change, and that involves knowing when to just dismiss it from your mind and let it go.
It's sort of like baking cookies in an oven (here we go with baking analogies again; first it was recipes, now it's cookies!). If you put the dough in the oven but keep opening the oven door every 30 seconds to check if the cookies are done, they will never get finished!
In fact, this constant thinking if you are progressing or not or if it is working is just another form of doubt. You see, "hope" and "doubt" are really the same thing. They both involve uncertainty.
Once you've done your mental rehearsal, you need to let it go. Just release it, relax and know it will be there for you in the real world.
Ok. I think I've already over-loaded you a bit. Next issue, I will take you through an actual, structured, guided-visualization/mental rehearsal that you can learn to do on a daily basis to super-charge your confidence, power and success with women.
Til then,
Peace and Piece,
Ross
P.S. No matter where you may be with your success with women, you can always break through and make huge leaps and jumps. I've seen it with my students, time and again.
To watch a student make his breakthrough, just go here:
http://www.speedseduction.net/products/rj180.asp
Remember, where ever you have been with women, up to now, is has been based on what you were taught, what you knew how to do, up until now, with the tools you had at your disposal.
Given new tools, new ways of operating, new ways of thinking, you can and WILL do better, much better. I've seen it with students, THOUSANDS of times. So jump on over to http://www.speedseduction.net/products/rj87.asp
and get your Home Study Course right now!
This newsletter, and all of its contents are copyright Ross Jeffries. However this newsletter may be reprinted and re-used in any format, without prior consent, provided all content, including all links, are kept intact, proper credit for authorship is given, and the newsletter is given for free, without charge.
Monday, February 15, 2010
How To Use Easily Use Speed Seduction® Language Anytime Anywhere!
Dear Speed Seduction(R) Student,
The other day I received this very good question from a reader who wishes to remain totally anonymous, I'll call him "Anon":
"Ross,
Can Speed Seduction® patterns can be used in school class room where exist lots of students? Because in our place (not United States)girls are much more conservative , if she wants to go out with you to have a cup of coffee , it means maybe you are her good friend or she like you a bit.
So I would like to know if these pattern skills can be used in much more noisy places that include lot of people or even she has a friend sitting aside her ?
(I bought the HSC product 20 days ago)"
RJ here:
First, congrats on your first steps into a whole new way of understanding people, as well as nailing hot women!
Listen: "pattern skills" are about capturing and leading the imagination.
Do people use their imaginations, have their imaginations awakened and led in crowds? In classrooms? With other people? When alone? When walking, sitting, standing?
OF COURSE THEY DO!
Therefore, language (and approaches) that captures and leads the imagination can be used.
......ANY FUGGIN' PLACE YOU FIND YOURSELF, BUCKWHEAT!
Now listen: I am a bit concerned about your question. Here is why.
From the way you put things, you seem to be thinking of patterns as some weird, "outsider" "other" category of communication. Something "alien", from another planet or another world that has to be carefully hidden, like a UFO or a monster, lest people see it unprepared and panic!
Please get this: the language patterns I present in the HSC (and other products) may seem alien, or "foreign" or "dangerous" or "odd" or "weird"..to YOU.
**********************************************
ADVERTISEMENT Get YOUR Speed Seduction® Home Study Course and enjoy awesome success with women today! ACCEPT NO CHEAP IMITATIONS! Get the real stuff here:
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*************************************
But to women, they are a perfect match for how they think, ANYWAY.
This kind of language is instantly and UNCONSCIOUSLY
recognized and responded to in a positive fashion by women, because it matches the internal "maps" they have already laid down in the deepest levels of their minds about what turns them on, moves them, excites them.
Do you get it?
You are NOT introducing anything odd or weird or foreign..to THEM.
Remember, language that would revolt, turn off, weird-out and totally creep out us guys, is like HONEY to women.
That's the first thing to get.
Now, get this:
The patterns I present in the courses are only (ONLY)
examples. They are meant to train and teach and familiarize your mind with the kinds of talk that turn women on.
Yes, by themselves, just as written, recited from memory,
they can often be VERY powerful.
But eventually, through using them and UNDERSTANDING HOW AND WHY THEY WORK, I want you to be able to come up with you own, original stuff.
Now, here is the next understanding, based on what I just
said:
****Wherever possible, tailor, modify and adapt your language to the unique situation and the unique audience and environment you have in front of you****
How do you do this?
Well, first of all, you go beyond MEMORIZING. You have to really understand and experience the idea of capturing and leading the imagination and that this happens all the time.
You have to get that the imagination, fantasy, and right brain visualizing and emotion controls MUCH more of human behavior than you ever first realized, especially with women.
You have to experience how words can paint vivid mental images and create strong flows of feeling.
You have to understand(UNDERSTAND!!!!) how vague language and descriptive language can create huge flows of positive emotion and trigger mental images.
Once you really understand, then you can go to modifying
what you say to fit your audience and the environment.
You can match your language to:
*Something going on in the physical environment.
*Something going on in the emotional environment
*Something your audience is DOING
*Something your audience is OBSERVING
(It doesn't' matter whether you audience is one woman or 2 dozen women. These principles work regardless and irrespective of numbers).
Another principle is: observe who is most responsive to your words.
Example: let's say you are at a poetry reading and you are going to get up on stage and read some steamy seduction poems, like my "Fascination" poem which is actually in the BHSC.
What you want to do is SLOWLY read the poem, pausing as you go and make eye contact with the audience. Watch to see which women are most strongly responding: who is getting all "doggy dinner bowl", with wide open eyes, lips parted, breathing heavy, even nipples erect.
THOSE are the girls you will want to talk to, afterwards.
Whenever I am in a group of women, I always watch to see who is most responsive. Those are the ones I will zero in on for more attention.
Ok. Good questions. I hope the answers get you started.
RJ
VERY IMPORTANT P.S. I am shipping off the very first DVD copies of my newest product: Secrets Of Gold-Walk-Ups How To Use Speed Seduction To Easily Meet Women, Anytime, Anywhere (and never worry about what to say).
Learn to meet women, anytime, anywhere and never worry about what to say:
Just click here NOW:
http://www.speedseduction.net/products/rj185.asp
This newsletter, and all of its contents are copyright Ross Jeffries. However this newsletter may be reprinted and re-used in any format, without prior consent, provided all content, including all links, are kept intact, proper credit for authorship is given, and the newsletter is given for free, without charge.
The other day I received this very good question from a reader who wishes to remain totally anonymous, I'll call him "Anon":
"Ross,
Can Speed Seduction® patterns can be used in school class room where exist lots of students? Because in our place (not United States)girls are much more conservative , if she wants to go out with you to have a cup of coffee , it means maybe you are her good friend or she like you a bit.
So I would like to know if these pattern skills can be used in much more noisy places that include lot of people or even she has a friend sitting aside her ?
(I bought the HSC product 20 days ago)"
RJ here:
First, congrats on your first steps into a whole new way of understanding people, as well as nailing hot women!
Listen: "pattern skills" are about capturing and leading the imagination.
Do people use their imaginations, have their imaginations awakened and led in crowds? In classrooms? With other people? When alone? When walking, sitting, standing?
OF COURSE THEY DO!
Therefore, language (and approaches) that captures and leads the imagination can be used.
......ANY FUGGIN' PLACE YOU FIND YOURSELF, BUCKWHEAT!
Now listen: I am a bit concerned about your question. Here is why.
From the way you put things, you seem to be thinking of patterns as some weird, "outsider" "other" category of communication. Something "alien", from another planet or another world that has to be carefully hidden, like a UFO or a monster, lest people see it unprepared and panic!
Please get this: the language patterns I present in the HSC (and other products) may seem alien, or "foreign" or "dangerous" or "odd" or "weird"..to YOU.
**********************************************
ADVERTISEMENT Get YOUR Speed Seduction® Home Study Course and enjoy awesome success with women today! ACCEPT NO CHEAP IMITATIONS! Get the real stuff here:
http://www.speedseduction.net/products/rj87.asp
*************************************
But to women, they are a perfect match for how they think, ANYWAY.
This kind of language is instantly and UNCONSCIOUSLY
recognized and responded to in a positive fashion by women, because it matches the internal "maps" they have already laid down in the deepest levels of their minds about what turns them on, moves them, excites them.
Do you get it?
You are NOT introducing anything odd or weird or foreign..to THEM.
Remember, language that would revolt, turn off, weird-out and totally creep out us guys, is like HONEY to women.
That's the first thing to get.
Now, get this:
The patterns I present in the courses are only (ONLY)
examples. They are meant to train and teach and familiarize your mind with the kinds of talk that turn women on.
Yes, by themselves, just as written, recited from memory,
they can often be VERY powerful.
But eventually, through using them and UNDERSTANDING HOW AND WHY THEY WORK, I want you to be able to come up with you own, original stuff.
Now, here is the next understanding, based on what I just
said:
****Wherever possible, tailor, modify and adapt your language to the unique situation and the unique audience and environment you have in front of you****
How do you do this?
Well, first of all, you go beyond MEMORIZING. You have to really understand and experience the idea of capturing and leading the imagination and that this happens all the time.
You have to get that the imagination, fantasy, and right brain visualizing and emotion controls MUCH more of human behavior than you ever first realized, especially with women.
You have to experience how words can paint vivid mental images and create strong flows of feeling.
You have to understand(UNDERSTAND!!!!) how vague language and descriptive language can create huge flows of positive emotion and trigger mental images.
Once you really understand, then you can go to modifying
what you say to fit your audience and the environment.
You can match your language to:
*Something going on in the physical environment.
*Something going on in the emotional environment
*Something your audience is DOING
*Something your audience is OBSERVING
(It doesn't' matter whether you audience is one woman or 2 dozen women. These principles work regardless and irrespective of numbers).
Another principle is: observe who is most responsive to your words.
Example: let's say you are at a poetry reading and you are going to get up on stage and read some steamy seduction poems, like my "Fascination" poem which is actually in the BHSC.
What you want to do is SLOWLY read the poem, pausing as you go and make eye contact with the audience. Watch to see which women are most strongly responding: who is getting all "doggy dinner bowl", with wide open eyes, lips parted, breathing heavy, even nipples erect.
THOSE are the girls you will want to talk to, afterwards.
Whenever I am in a group of women, I always watch to see who is most responsive. Those are the ones I will zero in on for more attention.
Ok. Good questions. I hope the answers get you started.
RJ
VERY IMPORTANT P.S. I am shipping off the very first DVD copies of my newest product: Secrets Of Gold-Walk-Ups How To Use Speed Seduction To Easily Meet Women, Anytime, Anywhere (and never worry about what to say).
Learn to meet women, anytime, anywhere and never worry about what to say:
Just click here NOW:
http://www.speedseduction.net/products/rj185.asp
This newsletter, and all of its contents are copyright Ross Jeffries. However this newsletter may be reprinted and re-used in any format, without prior consent, provided all content, including all links, are kept intact, proper credit for authorship is given, and the newsletter is given for free, without charge.
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